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I could really use some input here. I recently found out I have g-h. My ex boyfriend decided to drop the bomb on me saying he had it and that I probably do too. After getting tested I indeed have it. We broke up months ago and I have recently met a new guy we have been intimate. :( we've used condoms but I'm terrified to tell him that he may have transmitted it now. I feel like an idiot for not getting tested before but without symptoms there was nothin to worry about! What do I do?!!? Worst part is this new guy has become such a great friend and could lead to so much more and I'm terrified that not only I will lose that but he will freak out and hate my guts! What do I do? How do I explain to him that he may have this because I was too stupid to not get tested!!! This is devastating! Please give me advice!

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I once had a friend with benefits (not saying that's your case) and after we f'd the first time, he tossed a book about HepB at me. That was one hell of a way to drop the bomb on me! So, I'd suggest not doing that. Only thing is he was sooooooooo good in bed, I couldn't resist him once I knew about it, I was like, well, shoot. Now what? We did use protection, but we all know it's not 100%. So, like a dummy, I carried on with him for a while.

When I asked my Dr for an AIDS test (married 6 years at that point. No cheating; HepB-Bomb-Boy was kicked to the curb before I met my Husband.), the Doc insisted on running tests for "everything". So I came up pos for GH-2, although I've never had symptoms. I had to come home and tell my Husband right away. He's refused to get tested, I don't know why. I know Husband and Friend are two WAY different situations.

I would say tell him ASAP simply bc what would you want somebody to do with you? Maybe think of how your ex did it and even ask him for advice on how he got up the courage to tell you? bc it does take a lot of guts.

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Hey! Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I feel so alone in this it's horrible! I did work up the courage to tell him but sobbed the whole time! I explained that I wasn't sure before. I mean I knew my ex wasn't the greatest guy but still. What's worse is I had an idea but without symptoms and a definite answer I put it in the past and never thought id meet this new guy. (and we are friends with benefits as of now) but once we had sex I had this gut feeling that it wasn't right for some reason and believe me it was soooooooooooo amazing! Then my ex drops the bomb that he for sure has it and I just knew! I just feel like an idiot for getting close with some one new and not getting that definite answer first. I mean he took it alright he was upset for sure but keeps tellig me to be positive and keep my head up. We don't know he has it so he's optimistic but it's hard for me to be optimistic that he will want anything to do with me if he has it! I am devastated I just got myself in such a bad predicament! But thank you again!!!

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