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OK, so I've been celibate since my contraction of herpes and my divorce 3 years ago (yeap my cheatin', prostitute getting ex-husband gave it to me). I figured its MUCH easier just to NOT have to deal with the whole dating and telling people you have herpes, etc. So I chose to just put a wall up, turn off my inner emotions and just not date. And I have been doing just fine, I keep busy, have alot of friends, etc.

WELL, I met a guy a while back and we have been friends, keeping in contact, etc. He lives out of town. I knew I was attracted to him, but again, never let on that I was due to my little wall I built. Well, recently he told me he was attracted to ME, and I had to admit I was attracted to him. Something inside me said, GOD just give the poor guy a chance and TELL him the truth. I told him EVERYTHING over dinner, that my ex-husband had cheated on me in our 4 month marriage, gave me herpes, etc. I told him I take valtrex and get an OB maybe 2 times per year at this point, etc. I then kind of stopped talking and looked up at his face, and he looked like he was going to cry. Then I got emotional because this is the first time I had actually told a potential guy I liked that I had herpes. I started crying myself.

He said he was very sorry that happened to me, it wasn't my fault, and he was SURE there was a 'way around it'. He didn't run out or get the check or leave as I had envisioned a guy would. I told him I wanted him to read all about herpes and educate himself, and that I would print out some stuff for him to read. He said that would be great. So I did that,,,,,,,,,it felt very uncomfortable to me, but I gave him the papers I had printed off the internet and some links for him to go to.

He said he wasn't worried about getting it, and that he just liked me too much to care. He said him stopping smoking (which I told him I couldn't deal with a smoker, lol) was more of an issue than the herpes,,,,,,,,,,,

I must say, I am amazed by this. He never questioned it or acted repulsed at any time, he just said 'what can we do to be safe about it',,,,,,,,,,,

I guess you just have to give people a chance to accept you, because I guess I really AM worth 'the risk'. This whole thing is kind of a test that is very telling of how someone feels about you,,,,,,,,,if they take off and you never see them again, well, they just wanted to get LAID,,,,,,,if they hang around and want to learn about it and STILL be with you, then they like you for YOU.

God does things for a reason,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I guess he gave me herpes so I could weed out the idiots, lol....................

we'll see what happens from here, but YES we DID have sex, using a condom and of course my daily valtrex, and its been 3 years since I"ve had sex, so this guy may have awoken a beast, lol............

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The same senbtiments get echoed ere

if they are worth it, it wont bother them!!! if they run a mile, then they wasnt worth it, and its a good thing they did!

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