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so I am recently diagnosed.

My boyfriend was super distant when I told him. And we're still unsure if he has it or what my blood tests look like.

We were making out last nite. We've been clear about what we can and can't do, but mostly b/c i'm ending a outbreak.

I told him I really wanted to go down on him. He was like, yeah I thought that's like all we can do. I said, no b/c we're not sure if he has it and I don't want it in my mouth!

He was bummed. I was bummed.

Besides the frustration and lack of being able to satisfy eachother, what can we do?! to please eachother.

And when after an outbreak is it ok to start having sex again? I mean how does everyone do this? If he's got it and i've got it, do we use condoms? I'm feeling really uneducated here. But feel like I can deal w/ the rest.

any advice is much appreciated.


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you can use condoms, bj- with condoms> thats what flavored is for.

if he has it, and u have it- then condoms arent really nessesary, cause u both have it already.

you have to really take some risks, and be ok with the outcomes that might happen if you have sex unprotected. you might get it some place else, he might get it, etc.

and i waited a few weeks after a outbreak before having sex to make sure it was all gone.

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if i feel the tingle i stay away from penetration for two weeks, and or after an OB i do the same!

it hastn affected my sex life that badly to be fair - down to the fact i dont get many OBS

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thanks. I feel like things will work themselves out... I mean really we're just waiting for our test results.....

We had sex quite a bit. I mean we've been together 4 mos... And sex was almost a daily thing. I have no problem not doing it. I think he's ok w/ it. but at the same time I'm 27 and the sex has just been getting better and better.... And he likes to please me. That's something we'll have to adjust to.

Is it evil that I hope he has it too so we can still have unprotected sex? I mean really. It sounds kinda ignorant, but I still am coming to terms w/ this.

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