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youngteen19

I have had herpes since late may of 2012. My ex boyfriend was my giver. We have talked about it once and that was when I found out I had it. He denied giving it to me although he was my only sexual partner. We have been on and off since then and neither of us have brought it up. I'm to much of a coward and I'm assuming so is he. I have tried to leave him but he is my first love and is persistent on keeping me around. Even though he lives with another girl he comes around me and my family as if I am his girlfriend. I dont know what to do my heart says stay but my mind is telling me to move on. But I'm afraid that becuase of herpes I won't be able to have any other relationships. I would appreciate advice.

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trackgirl23

Hey :) Your story is a little similar to me. My ex gave my herpes he claimed he didnt have it and he said that he didn't cheat on me, I really dont know which to believe but it doesnt matter now just because it won't change anything. We broke up 2 months after I found out I had it. I was with him for 8 months. I felt so low because I felt how would I try and find love again, i was only 19 at the time now i'm 20 but up until 4 months ago, it was hard for me to move on from my ex. I even considered going back with him even though i found out he cheated on me, only because I didnt think other guys would want me.

I met this great guy and we talked for a few months before we even got the chance to kiss or hug or anything because he was playing college football in a different state. When he came home for winter break and he found out about me having herpes, he was more mad because It didnt come from my mouth, my ex bestfriend told him. He said it was easy for him to accept it because he had fallen so hard for my personality that he wasn't going to let something like this get in the way of us being together.

So if you don't want to be with your ex anymore, LEAVE! I promise you, you will find someone who will accept it. You just have to weed out the good from the bad, trust your instincts, thats very important. I knew from the jump that I wanted to tell my bf about my herpes, i knew he was different and mature enough to handle it. You are going through something that is very common it's just that some people dont talk about it. You have to be smart and honest when dealing with someone you see yourself being in a relationship with. they'll respect your honesty more than anything.

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youngteen19

Thank you for your advice it's nice to know I'm not the only one that's going trough this

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HottMess

Sweetie I know what your going through and my best advice is to leave him. After I found out about my H that I had gotten from my ex I actually stayed with him for a year. Whatever feelings your having for him now WILL change down the line. I promise you. My ex wasnt a cheater or anything like that but now that I look back I wonder why and how I stayed with someone after all that. We only talked about it when I first told him I had it but he got mad if I tried to bring it up. That just shows how he didnt care enough about me to be able to talk about it and apologise. If your ex isnt mature enough to talk about it with you he really is not worth your time and things arent going to magically fix themselves. If you want to talk just shoot me a message :) Im 18 and happy to chat, were all going through the same thing and it hasnt been easy for me even after 2 yrs

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youngteen19

Thank you and I will consider messaging you in the future thanks so much!

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jennabro

I found about after 5 months of back and forth to the doctors that i have contracted genital herpes. I've had two out brakes so far and the first was the worst. Apparently they get better in time. If starting to cope with the fact that i have it, but sometimes i go into deep thought and panic about future relationships, and if i'll ever have any.

I know that i'm not 'dirty' or a 'slag' like ignorant people think. I'm a very respected person, 2 serious relationships and and 1 off. Who i contracted it from... i still don't know. Even if i had slept with 10 people, it's still unfair to have this :/

HOWEVER, i know, and i'm sure everyone who has herpes knows that it is NOT a big deal. Just because it's on your genitals and you can catch it though sex makes it bad!? It doesn't affect your health or fertility. You just get an outbreak every now and then which can be controlled.

I erg anyone who feels worried, to talk to a INTELLIGENT sexual health person, not a crumy GP, they are useless.

Feel free to message me at any time, this is the first forum I've used. I haven't shared any of this information with anyone else who also have the disease. Id like someone to chat too as well :)

Thanks for reading x

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youngteen19

@jennabro thanks for sharing

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