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I just recently got herpes and theres so much pain and emotional stress. I told my partner and he left me. I don't understand why this happened to me. I dont know who to talk to or go next. I feel like no one will ever love me or want me again. Any advice?

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Hey Goshme - I was just diagnosed with Genital Herpes last Friday so I feel for your situation. It's a horrible disease but a disease that can be maintained and treated for the most part. My husband/partner gave this to me due to his past indiscretions but also gave me HPV (Human Papilloma Virus) as well. In woman this is the #1 cause of cervical cancer but in men (like myself) the main manifestations are anal warts. And typically when you have the anal warts form of it it's pretty much like Herpes and stays in your system. If I'm lucky my body "could" ward off the HPV but it could linger my system and be a part of me for the rest of my life like Herpes. And the only way to get rid of Anal Warts is to have them removed via surgery. I had mine removed back in August and it's a painful surgery. To this day I'm free of them but there's no guarantee that they won't come back.

So my point to this is that it could always be worse. But we can't make this disease define us or fail us as humans. Or make us into monsters or mutants. I'm so much more than this! Foremost...I'm a father and my daughter is the light of my life and the reason I get up every morning. And secondly...I'm also a good person who didn't deserve any of this...just like you.

So we have to deal with the hand that life dealt us. We have to pick up the pieces to this puzzle we've been given. And just like any puzzle you have to sort out the pieces and arrange them accordingly. You start out with the edges and work your way towards the middle...piece by piece you will become whole again. I promise. You just have to have the strength and belief in yourself to carry you through this. Our road isn't an easy one...but it's manageable. You've already taken the first steps in this and came to this forum to look for help and advice. The next step is the step made in you...take it...and another...and another.

Keep your head held high. You are much more than this disease!!! You will make it through this...

I'm here if you ever need to talk! :) And know you are not alone in this.

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Hey Goshme,

I just got diagnosed yesterday. I'm a married female. I am not sure how I got it but I don't think my husband has it, he's getting tested friday. Im devastated too. I feel ugly, unattractive and ashamed. Right now I'm just praying that this is just some big mix up. That's all I have faith in right now, God. To help me through this and that this isn't really happening. Its a horrible nightmare.

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