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Hi, today I feel the necessity to express why I decided tobecame a member of the HC Support group. As some of you know I have beendiagnosed whit herpes type 1 and 2 about four years ago. What my doctor told meafter giving me that news was “feel lucky that is not HIV”. In here I had learned that this is a virusthat may be dormant in my system. After the diagnosis I felt that I was filthyand unworthy, I avoided any kind of contact con other people. I disclosed to 5members of my family and my best friend. One of my brothers did not take it sowell and he does not be near me often, my best friend walk away from me withoutsaying anything. Over Christmas Eve my other brother had a talk with me andmake me promised him that I was going to look for help and here I am.

Besides having herpes I have fibromyalgia for 13 years nowand RA for a year, as far as I know these are all due to a deficient immunesystem. Almost 17 years ago and during my son’s pregnancy I was diagnosed with Hypothyroidism.I have always taking multi vitamins and vitamin C but none of my doctors have neverexplained about the health problems that I seem to have or that are coming myway doe to my immune system deficient.

Today I have a cold for the 7th time since Augustof 2012 and what is killing me now is the fibromyalgia. I have fever of over 100° and I was told bythe nurse to just rest and take some ibuprofen and plenty of liquids. These arethe days that I feel depress and very but I mean very upset!

Some of you may think that I need to talk to a professional,a psychiatric or a therapist. I had than that for years and at the end I feelthat they just not help me, at least not the way I was hoping to be help. I donot expect them to solve my problems but I believe that they are more than capableto help me understand what I am going through. I was wishing for them to saysomething like:” go to the library or internet and research on immune system deceased’s”.I know they have so many patients but I just do not understand the fact thatthey did not said anything about immune system like herpes, chicken pox andmono when they know that I had those too.

I know now that herpes is also a skin condition, I haveeczema and dermatitis since childhood and I just think that is not fair thatnobody give me a hint about all this. I am not blaming anybody about it but Ijust feel very frustrated about it.

I also feel very lucky that in two years I haven’t have anyoutbreaks, I also think is because I am not sexually active for the 7 years. Thetwo outbreaks I had were stress related, if it was not for that I may neverknow that I have H.

I do not mean to be offensive to anybody; I’m just trying toexpress how I feel and also thank you all for giving me the opportunity to doit here.

Thanks for your time.

Marycruz :cool:

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Acesheart

Hi Mary welcome to our site :) . It's like I always say we all usually have bigger issues than h. I have had ghsv2 for 25 and I've only had two outbreaks ever. My second was stresses related. I'm married for 22 years and I do have sexy times monthly. So I can't say if not having sexy times for 7 years has kept you h free from outbreaks. My antivirals keep my outbreaks at bay and reduce my shedding and keep my husband a non h man still. It's great that we have a site to vent and share our stories. Once again welcome to the family. Take care Ace :)

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Marycruz

Thanks for your warmth and kind words Ace, and also for making me feel welcome here!

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Thanks for your warmth and kind words Ace, and also for making me feel welcome here!

Hey Mary, you will meet many supportive people here just like myself who have lived with herps for many years and who are with and married to non h partners like me. Here is a book www.westoverheights.com , please read all you can. We take the fear out of h when we put the knowledge in. Take care. Hugs, Ace :wavey:

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