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feeling particularly shitty tonight

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I was diagnosed with genital hsv-1 in November. I was sleeping with this guy who I wasn't too into, but he really liked me and I figured we could just mess around and keep it casual. Ended up ending things with him, he slept with some other chick and then I, like an idiot, slept with him again and he passed this on to me (we think it came from the girl that went down on him). Since being diagnosed I've pretty much come to terms with it but I'm just frustrated tonight.

I'm barely 20 years old and I just feel like I've lost a great deal of freedom. I don't sleep around, I just hate that I have to relinquish the freedom of flings and meeting new people and seeing where things go, because this will always be in the back of my mind. I have all the facts-- I get it. I know HSV-1 is the lesser of two evils, I've read every possible piece of information on it. I know I should be grateful. I'm upset because the doctor who diagnosed me brushed it off like it was no big deal and told me that I don't need to tell anyone about this, but I know that others feel strongly about disclosure which I understand. And since I'm young and my potential partners will be young, I feel like I'm going to have to settle. I feel like once someone I'm seeing finds out about this, they'll just move on to the next one since we're not looking to settle down at our age. I feel tainted, like my desirability is gone. Just having a bad night. Most days I can shake it off and snap myself out of the funk.

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im the exact same way tonight i know exactly how you feel... its been like this for a few days actually. it sucks and i hear the same things about disclosure and others are so adamant about it. im only 23 myself and it sucks having it in the back of your mind. it sucks because i feel the same way about them not being accepting when in reality theres like a 70 percent chance that the next person they hu with has the same thing i do, and if they have it orally theyre actually more of a threat. ive read all the info possible too i just feel like the statistics though they help me realize its not that bad wont be enough to convince someone. im terrified of telling someone and never had to worry about it myself as i dated the guy who gave it to me for three years

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    • WilsoInAus
      No I’m sorry the only person that needs to be reported is you. Your posts are unacceptable by societal standards, that’s plain to all readers. Your damage to people with HSV is reprehensible. The only person bashing is you, until your attitude changes and you grow up, there is no place for you on this website.
    • Jessie67
      Okay,  here's an update... the new site that was bothering me this morning looks clearer and is no longer raised but it's still red.  I've started using tea tree oil mixed with coconut after someone suggested it.   I didn't take an extra dose so I don't know if it was the oil or the medicine.   I'm driving myself nuts with all of this. 
    • f*ckedOver

      The truth of the matter is that you have no idea what you're talking about.  You seriously have issues trying to tell someone about how they suffer, what their test results are.  You apparently suffer from HSV-1 oral based on your profile and you're here for who knows why...sure you must suffer a lot or possibly none at all.  Either way most of the population is okay with someone have HSV-1 orally.  HSV-2 Genital & Oral is a different ballgame for obvious reasons. 

      You think that by my symptoms which include 5 oral lesions since exposure and test results aren't good enough.  I don't need to post my results online to let the world see.  In fact I am done explaining myself. 

      THIS IS A SUPPORT COMMUNITY NOT A BASH COMMUNITY. YOU THINK IT'S OKAY TO BASH PEOPLE FOR LORD KNOW WHAT REASON.  You attempt to manipulate my character with your slander of my character.  The only person proving them self of poor character here is yourself.  

      I have reported you. You have no reason to be here, you are the classical keyboard warrior-troll. I have every right to be pissed off and trust me if I could. I would beat the shit out of you, bc you need lessons learned.  You're alien trying to tell another human being his/her symptoms and feelings.  FUCK OFF. I will never reply to you again. I don't care how much you try to stir the pot. You have lost all credibility and you have nothing better to do than try to demoralize other people. You're a shitty human being. 
    • WilsoInAus
      @Tone123 could of points. A person with genital herpes is already infected through their entire genital area as marked out roughly by a pair of boxer shorts. Once your immune system is in full swing (a few months from infection) then further infection of the same type, regardless of any sub strains, is of negligible chance.
    • ManagingIllness
      You can have HIV for many years without developing AIDs, if that is what you're asking.

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