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via345

Hi everyone... I was tested for herpes via culture of a blister last wk wednesday and the results came in this tuesday and i have been dealing with it ever since. The first day i found out i cried til my eyes swelled up. I was scared confused and hurt. I was also so concerned of how my bf wud take it. I had called him over and asked him to jus hold me and hug me repeatedly. Thru the niht i wud cry n cry and he wud jus hold me. At this point he didnt know watvwas wrong and told me that i could tell him anything. So as the nite ended i decided thatbthe best thing i cud do was tell him. His reaction was silence and shock. Yesterday wednesday we barely spoke until the nite wen i mustered the courage to call him. He told me that we were no longer together but he wud b there for me and he cared about me and i mean a lot to him but he needed space and time as he is angry and hurt and he feels for me.... He says as of now we cant be together and he doesnt kno if we will ever be back together. Of course the break up pains me. Now how did i get herpes? First off i had an outbreak some months ago but thought nothing of it as i t hought i cut myself during shaving. When it came bck last wk i panicked and callee my gyn who performed a culture. I told her that i had never had an outbreak until recently in the same time frame as i was sexually intimate with my now ex bf. Now the chances that he gave me the herpes virus is 60% maybe even 75%as he slept with a random chick he met in a club a couple months bck, 7 to be exact. Before us i never had an outbreak. The other 40% or 25% cud b frm a previous partner. He hasnt had any outbreaks as im sure he wud have notified me. I have been reading a lot of articles and i am goin to do a blood test tdy.. Strqngely i hqve been trying to do blood work since last wk but none seems available so.im goin to a different place forthat. This mornong i noticed wat seems to b a blister or sore in my mouth in the cheek area. Im hoping its jus a canker sore and not a herpes sore. Im unaware of which type of herpes i have or if the culture is even accurate. Mybsores dont seems to look like those online nor do they crust up and scab. They just heal.. Someone help plz

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serenity91

Hey the herpes virus can live in your body and never produce symptoms. Some people experience symptoms after having contracted the virus months or even years back. If your boyfriend has ever had cold sores that could be what caused it. Not many people know that the virus can be shed even if a sore isn't present and this is why it is a very common STI. You need to figure out which type it is, because if you have HSV-1 in your genital area, it occurs less often and is generally less severe since it isn't in the site of preference. Be healthy and exercise. Try not to stress too much because it may cause an outbreak. And for your boyfriend situation, if he isn't being supportive of this issue then you should just give him some space. You need to give him time to run this through his brain. It's quite normal to be shocked finding out your partner has herpes and I know this is a crucial time for you too since you have been infected, but you just need to give him space. If he decides that he loves you enough to stay with you, then you know you've found a keeper. If he leaves just because of a condition that you didn't know you had, then he obviously isn't even worth your time.

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Thank you for all that u said.... My Gyn only reqiired testing for hsv2 & he has already decided that we cant bw together.. We apk everyday as he says he is willing to b supportive of me but cant be in a relationship with me... It hurts like hell bcuz yhis is somethong i cnt cpntrol nor did i purposely get. Jus wish he cud understand and give us a.chance

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serenity91

The fact that he's still being supportive means that he cares for you. I say you should just give him time to heal a little bit and also for the shocking news to sink in. Only time can tell.

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Thats true to becaise although i say if it were the other way around id stay honestly.idk.wat i wud have actually done at the moment of finding out.... He doesnt know exactly wat std that i have jua that i have one... I was so emotional when i told him i never mentioned it.... We are actually supposetto go out in a few hrs but as frienda i guess bcuz he made it clr we aren't together and he says he doesnt kno if we will ever get bck together.

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