Jump to content

HSV II and safe sex vs. sex with anyone...


Recommended Posts


I am infected my possible partner is not. When i have sex with someone non-infected i am positively anal (no pun) about cleanliness. I never touch myself then her, i wash my hands constantly, always wear a condom, etc.. Now since so many people do not know they are infected, what poses more risk: having safe sex with someone consciously aware of their STD status and takes such precautions, or having sex with someone unaware (not tested) who has safe sex but surely doesn't worry about accidentally rubbing their sex upon another's, washing hands, touching themselves then touching their partner, etc..?

Is there any study on this? I found a study that says in about 6% of people can get HSV II from someone infected without sores and that number is cut in half when using condoms (I don't know the percentage if lesions are apparent).

I would think odds of getting HSV II are greater with someone untested (regularly) who has shown no symptoms than sex than with someone with HSV II who takes such precautions.

Any thoughts?

thank you...

Link to comment
Share on other sites

No, i personally think the risk is higher with someone who is infected due to asymptomatic shedding and also the fact that condoms are only affective if the person carrying the virus gets outbreaks or is shedding on an area the condom protects....and for millions of people outbreaks occur in areas outside where a condom covers.....also, a lot of women get outbreaks in areas outside where the condom goes and that allows transmission of the virus to occur more often during "safe" sex. So, unfortunately I think there is risk either way, but using a condom with someone infected still poses a greater risk in my opinion. Also there is no guarantee or set statistic that people can go on when it comes to herpes transmission because every body is different and people with the virus shed differently than one another...some shed more often, or less....but you can never be sure so its always a gamble.

True about it being a risk with someone who is not tested...but chances are they may have something else that can be cured, have nothing at all, or perhaps have herpes but without any visible symptoms of it and a condom will only be effective if covering an area that is shedding in this scenario as well....but there is sooo much more room for the possibility of the person to not be carrying herpes virus, versus when it comes to having sex with someone infected with the herpes virus because then there is a clear known risk present.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

  • Donate

    If Honeycomb has helped you, please help us by making a donation so we can provide you with even better features and services.

  • The Hive is Thriving!

    • Total Topics
    • Total Posts
  • Posts

    • WilsoInAus
      Hello there @momma267 and welcome. There is no reason to believe that what you have there is other than a pressure sore, something that has emerged from rubbing with clothing or butt cheeks and exacerbated by bacteria or yeast.  Note that the first you’d learn of herpes is unlikely to be on your butt, instead where it enters your body, this is usually within the vaginal lips for females.
    • momma267
      So to begin with, I am 26 and have been with the same partner for 8 years. I have only been with three people ever, one completely protected and the other we were both our firsts. I got this rash on my but while pregnant and my doctor said she was testing for it and I'm so confused. I've had two babies, breastfeed, and never had anything as much as a cold sore. Does this look like something anyone has experienced? I used fragrant soap down there and am hoping it's contact dermatitis or a heat rash from sweating and gaining so much weight.  Advice would be helpful. I'm stressing out a bit as I am pregnant. Blister https://picallow.com/blister/  
    • harrygauff
      @WilsoInAus could you kindly have a look :) also how long does it typically take for herpes blisters to develop into sores
    • harrygauff
      Hi, it is me again, apologies for the recent influx of posts. I've noticed a slightly raised area on the middle of my top lip with what i feel are some bumps. i do have a habit of biting my lips a fair bit and this area is frequented by my teeth. I haven't noticed any unusual/abnormal tingling or burning or pain sensations. the photos are a bit difficult to focus on them but do these seem like the start of cold sores? note: I will be visiting the drs for an std checkup in the coming week. https://imgur.com/gallery/YLVA5us
    • WilsoInAus
      To give everyone confidence that it wasn’t herpes related and conclude as the doctor did that it was a dermatitis issue to refer back to the dermatologist to continue with investigations.
  • Create New...

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.