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Hi my name is Suzie and I was just diagnosed last week with HSV-2. I have been reading the posts here just for some moral support. I know the young people here are saying "why me" and believe me at 50 years old I feel the same way. I don't know if I got this from my last relationship or something that has been in my system lurking for years or what. Yes I did ask the guy, hey have you been tested, and he told me yes, but he hadn't actually he just thought since he had previous blood work done that it would be automatically tested as he is rather "old school" and didn't know you had to ASK to be tested. I assume he has it now one way or another as we had intimate relations just before my first outbreak occured. I am just so angry about this because if I had known he hadn't been tested I would not have in my wildest dreams had intimate relations with him until he was. So now even if he tests positive I will never know who gave to whom. Maybe is shouldn't matter, but hey........it does.

I just don't understand why it would show up now, I was married before this and there were no signs or symptoms in either myself or my ex and believe me if stress brings this out it should of happened then (smile) :lol:. My now ex boyfriend is getting tested today so will probably know next week.

I think I am still in a daze about this whole thing. I also have arthritits and fibromyalgia so I guess I just add this to the list?

I havent taken anything yet for the outbreak been on antibiotics for the last 2 weeks for a bacterial infection (my first) and a uti infection (also a first). Geezzzz what the heck did this guy do to me (smile).

My 18 month old grand son and my daughter live with me and I am terrified that I could of passed it to my grandson without knowing because I didn't know what this was at first.

I try to live by the rule that "If life hands you lemons, go make yourself some lemonaide" but hey my plate feels very overloaded right now.

Sorry for talking so much but just really don't know where to turn to right now. Thanks for listening and I could sure use some support.


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There's information on this site about the blood test and how it can give some indication as to how long it's been in the system so that might be helpful to you (sorry can't give you any more details but as I say, it's on this site somewhere).

It's highly unlikely you'll have passed the virus on to anyone else given that you've got it genitally. It's passed on through contact with skin so I'd stop worrying about your grandson. If you had ORAL herpes then you'd be more likely to have passed it on to family members. But not genital herpes, so long as you have normal standards of hygiene!

It takes time to go through the 'shocked' stage. But as you normally have a positive attitude you'll get through this. Keep coming on here and reading as much as you can about it.

Good luck.

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