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Importance of getting partner tested too (my story)

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Lauren1140

I'm relitively new on here and some of you may or may not have read my story with what has been going on. As someone who has recently been diagnosed with genital HSV 1, I feel as though I should post a bit of my personal experience because it tells just how important it is to have your partner tested as well.

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. He is the only guy I have had sex with besides receiving oral sex from 3 others. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has a very colorful sexual past. He told me he has always gotten tested for STDs after every partner he had which I do believe. I do not believe, however, that those tests consisted of herpes testing as well. Anyways, one day I noticed red bumps outside of my vagina. I told him right away but he said maybe they were nothing. The next day things got worse and I noticed a yellow discharge and I was very much in pain. I made an appointment with my gyno and the next day she took one look at me and said "what we have here is herpes.". My world stopped spinning. She did a culture to make sure what she saw was correct. I immidiately told my boyfriend who understandably freaked out. He couldn't talk to me because he feared I had cheated.

I did some research and came on here and told him he could have it and just have never had any symptoms or an outbreak but still have given it to me. He said he would go get tested. He went to his doctor the next day. This idiot of a doctor told him that doing a blood test would be a waste of time since he had never had an outbreak or symptoms and that there's no way I got it from my boyfriend. His doctor fed him a load of crap. This made my boyfriend sure that I had cheated. I begged him to believe me and get a second opinion. He could barely talk to me for a few days and we were both very stressed. He finally decided to demand bloodwork and he went and got it. Almost a week later he found out he was positive for HSV 1.

I know this was a long post but I know I would have loved to read something like this when I first came on here. It really shows how important it is to get tested no matter how bad things look and I hope this benefits at least one person:)

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Acesheart

Hey Lauren, your post is wonderful sweety! It is very important that people know that doctor's are not perfect and they can be idiots. If your bf had not tested, after your guidance of course, he may never have known. It is good that you told this story, many will be educated by your experiences alone. It's wonderful to have you here and sharing your supportive story with us. Good job honey! :) hugs Ace :hithere:

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Hey Lauren, your post is wonderful sweety! It is very important that people know that doctor's are not perfect and they can be idiots. If your bf had not tested, after your guidance of course, he may never have known. It is good that you told this story, many will be educated by your experiences alone. It's wonderful to have you here and sharing your supportive story with us. Good job honey! :) hugs Ace :hithere:

Thank you so much:)

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