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Ok so uh, what can I do to like stop the pain, it hurts like when I stand up I can feel like I guess the sores or whatever and its sooooooooo annoying I hate it.

And whats the deal with the lower back cramp like pains I'm having?? Every once in awhile it feels like I'm still on my period and I'm having cramps in my lower back??

How do I tell my boyfriend that I have it? I had sex with someone else while we werent together and we're in love and that he knows that I might have something but I havent told him what it is yet, I've been able to tell my bestfriend's about it but when it comes to telling him I get all scared cause even though I know he loves me I'm scared that he'll like run or something.

Is it bad that I feel like killing the person who gave it to me?? I know I wont but its just knowing that he had it and didnt tell me makes me so mad, well I dont even know if he knows he has it, I dont even know for sure, I wont know until the swab cultures come back, from both the STD test and the PAP smear, til then I'm not so sure I'll tell him til I know FOR SURE that HSV-2 is what I have.

K well thats all for now, thx

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has your doctor given you valtrex or any other medication? i had extreme backpain the other day and when i walked it would shoot pain up my spine and i believe its related to the hsv-2 if i layed down for too long or sit still for too long the cramping just got worse so what i did was took a bath and added some bath salts into it to help my muscles relax and that seemed to help out a lot. so lately my routine has been to take a bath in the morning when i wake up cuz that seems to be when im cramped up the most and have the most back pain. i also apply cornstarch to my sores to help keep them dried out and it has seemed to help speed up the healing process they are almost completely healed. another thing my doctor had suggested to me was to sleep with no panties on so that i could keep the area dry. my doctor has also prescribed hydrocodone for the pain. as for telling your bf well i just got my positive results back from my doctor on friday and i told my boyfriend about it yesterday and i was a nervous wreck i didn't want to tell him because i was afraid of how he would react so i just came out with it and explained a little bit about it and he was really quiet for a while then he looked at me and told me that this didn't change how he felt about me. it was so much easier than i had thought it was going to be. he had other things he had to get done yesterday but he told me they could wait and he spent the whole day with me. i hope some of this information helps

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Yeh I'm on Valtrex, 4 times daily, at 2 pills in the morning and nite time, they are like 500mg's. And thanks for the tips, I'll try them out soon!

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Ok so uh, what can I do to like stop the pain, it hurts like when I stand up I can feel like I guess the sores or whatever and its sooooooooo annoying I hate it.

And whats the deal with the lower back cramp like pains I'm having?? Every once in awhile it feels like I'm still on my period and I'm having cramps in my lower back??

How do I tell my boyfriend that I have it? I had sex with someone else while we werent together and we're in love and that he knows that I might have something but I havent told him what it is yet, I've been able to tell my bestfriend's about it but when it comes to telling him I get all scared cause even though I know he loves me I'm scared that he'll like run or something.

Is it bad that I feel like killing the person who gave it to me?? I know I wont but its just knowing that he had it and didnt tell me makes me so mad, well I dont even know if he knows he has it, I dont even know for sure, I wont know until the swab cultures come back, from both the STD test and the PAP smear, til then I'm not so sure I'll tell him til I know FOR SURE that HSV-2 is what I have.

K well thats all for now, thx

I contracted HSV-2 just like you. I slept with somebody else while I wasn't with my partner. You have to tell him.

When I told him I slept with somebody else, I had no idea I had contracted HSV-2. I found out about two and half months later. He still stayed with me (although we broke up recently for different reasons) and didn't blame me or yell me for it. HE was rather optimistic which shocked me.

You just will have to tell your boyfriend and the person who you believed gave it to you. IT's step one to getting well.

good luck and chin up

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