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My diagnosed type 2 has been very hard..The man I initially got it from has not received no type of signs..He said he would get blood test, but he swears that he doesn't have anything. However, I had an ex whom I was with for 6 years, and cheated on me. He also, never had anything? I still don't understand how I got it...The funny thing is man that I think gave it to me shows me everyday his penis to show that he doesn't have anything..So, what am I suppose to think?

We always used condoms but 1 time.. After that 1 time weeks passed...and remember not getting anything...I know I did get it with him using condoms, and I was a bit dry and my skin got cut up a bit. My dumbass put neospirin and thought I was doing something smart...Then suddenly in a couple days they became open ulcers...it was the worse ever feeling ever pain in my life...I have 12yrs old and my pregnancy was never that bad as felt with that pain...

I ended up in the emergency all they game me were pain pills..nothing helped..Then I finally when to my gyne..and he took a sample for test.. He originally said that it started as a skin infection then it ended up as herpes? I still don't understand I don't think I will.. Cause I know I was cautious in being with this man that says he doesn't have nothing.. HE wants to get blood test to give me some closure.. So, what if he does test negative? Then how did I get it? I was not with my ex for about 2 months since we broke up...

SHould take a blood test again? So far I haven't had a outbreak...since then...it took me awhile to heal...Please give me some feedback...Right now, I feel like I did something wrong...but I know I didn't...:(

My ex wants to come back in my life again...I don't know how to deal with it, and tell him...:-(

He already gave me shit with the guy with...but was willing to forget...

THe man I think gave it to me still wants to be with me..not matter if I have it... :confused:

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sadly we can even contract or transmit hsv while using condoms because the virus is not contained to only the penis or vagina. Hsv can infect skin anywhere on the body but especially where there are mucous membranes. A condom will only protect the skin it covers so yes you could have been exposed while using condoms and it was not necessary for there to be signs of an ob.

Females tend to exhibit more active ob's than males because of the anatomical differences in our genitalia.

A blood test is the simplest way to be diagnosed but will only tell you that the virus is present it cannot tell you if the infection is oral or genital. Either strain may show up in either location and can be spread by either oral or genital contact.

Showing you his penis doesn't prove anything at all. It is simply a visual inspection and hsv may shed asymptomatically (without visible symptoms) at any time. The only way to be certain is to have herpes specific blood testing completed. A person can also be infected for many years and not have symptoms.

Standard STD testing does not include a test for hsv. You have to specifically ask for hsv blood tests. If an active ob is present a dr can take a sample using a swab and have it cultured in a lab and if the virus is present in the sample you can be diagnosed this way but many people believe that they are clean of std's when they infact have hsv and simply have not been tested or diagnosed.

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