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Hello everyone out there. I have never gone on a forum site before, although I use the internet every day at work. So I am just going to wade in and do this. I am feeling particularly devasted and alone at the moment due to my H. I have just turned 34 and had to reveal to a man whom I truly truly like that I have H. He is not coping well at all and I am heartbroken. The horrible thing is is that this disease was done TO me not BY me - by that I mean that I didn't become sexually active until I was 29 and was a bit naive when I started. I trusted a boyfriend of mine and agreed to not use condoms (was on the pill). He gave it to me. I thought that my skin was just raw from having a lot of sex. Didn't even enter my head that I might have been given something until I noticed some small lumps about a year later. I am a very active and social person (teach latin dance after I finish work most days) and have a good day career. I'm always being mistaken for someone in their mid-twenties and feel like I have so much to offer someone. Only a couple of people know my secret- two of those have been the last two men I have dated. The first loved me anyway. The second...well, who knows...

I have just realised that whomever I end up with will have to be happy with using condoms for the rest of their lives, and that this might not even protect them...apparently you are contagious even when not displaying symptoms? I don't know what to do. I don't know if the sum of me is enough to off-set this unwelcome and permanent fixture in my life. I get attention from men - they want to date me, but I am wondering if I should ever...I am worried that when I find someone I really like, they will walk away when they find out. I am surrounded by so many people yet feel so lonely. What do I do?

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