herpes hookup thread

[Guest kwest]

sooo basically this is fun game called 'who has a nasty disease but a nice bum?'

aka

'send me a picture'

c'mon ladys, chances are we live no where near each other so some harmless internet flirting cant hurt as theres no possibility of identification or 'outting', and if we DO live near each other, then fantastic, your place or mine?

feel free to shoot me a private messages, dirty talk encouraged

lets the games begin!

[notmyrealalias]

LOL - Question for you bro, I just got diagnosied... Do you continue your normal sexual life? Do you honestly tell the girls before hand - I mean like...you take em home from the bar/party... You dont throw them in bed, and say "Btw, i have herpes" then dive right in, do you?

Has a girl ever walked out on you cause of it?

[Guest kwest]

unfortunately, herpes kills dates..

i havent told anyone minus a couple friends, and thats cuz i'm not gay and wont have sex with them herpes or not...

my gameplan has just been 'avoid women at all costs' and its worked pretty well except it's making me an asshole..

i think i'm either gonna have to a) have sex with someone else infected not mention it and feel terrible after or c) have no sex

yaaaaaay

[mbrauneis]

well i really hope you don't choose B.

[desperate]

I kinda feel where you coming from. What's the worst that can happen? we can get reinfected!!!!!!!!Besides we are all experts now....

[Caliope]

I hear that getting re-infected really sucks and that some of the strains don't respond to the antivirals and things can get worse.

someone on here said it was like starting over with constant new ob's after years of it being almost never.

[gutted.]

lol

kwest..

tohught after getting the herps you would of learned about the dangers of casual sex...

[dbc1951]

lol

kwest..

tohught after getting the herps you would of learned about the dangers of casual sex...

Just bear in mind that it isn't only casual sex that spreads herpes.

[desperate]

I caught it during protected sex!!!The part that the condom did not cover.......

[Guest kwest]

all i learned is that there are consequences for your actions.. it definately doesnt make me not want sex

if i was supposed to learn to not want sex, then i failed this class

cuz i still wake up with a raging morning wood everyday for nothing

and its kiiiillling me.. but i dont wanna tell anyone have it out there...

b works only in the casual sex realm, its not lie, its dont be upfront.. now if some broad that doesnt know me is throwing herself at me literally and didnt ask, and at the time i'm ob free, no signs, no worrying indicators, i wore a condom.. technically i'm bad for not saying 'you could get herpes' but by her not asking 'could i get herpes?' its an accepted risk (this was explained to me by a girl, uninfected, during a sneaky 'what if' conversation about stds)

basically what i got from it was that we all know stuffs out there, if you're out having protected casual sex, you assume you're ok cuz you dont wanna hear otherwise. 'dont ask, dont tell' kinda thing cuz we all know something can happen.. and in order for something to happen, someone infected is having sex.. why cant it be me?

lol, dont freak out on me, its just ideas and words people, ideas and words

[notmyrealalias]

Just bear in mind that it isn't only casual sex that spreads herpes.

I got it without even having sex :/ On my hands. I'm still a virgin.

Also K, you should becareful with casual sex, You think an ob is the worst itll get, you're used to it.

Until you get diagnosed with HIV that is.

[Guest kwest]

PROTECTED... man.. i went thru so many magnums i used to joke about painting the walls to match the wrappers on the floor lol..

i went home for christmas and forgot to bring some.. didnt hit the store as i wasnt expecting sex.. shit happened, i hadnt seen her since we were 16-17.. i guess i just thought like the past years never happened and she musta been clean and it wasnt a stripper or anything so i thought pregnancy was my issue. was reassured of the pill, dove in, i'm a sucker

now, had i worn a condom, i believe i woulda been fine, as my first ob and where i had the only signs i saw from the second are on the dickhead and i had small bumps in the foreskin in the initial one.. due to that, i also believe with a condom and without a present outbreak, my chances of transfer thru shedding are pretty low, even lower apparently if i kept my boxers on, even tho i've never experienced a leg outbreak (still early too.. meh, i dont wanna curse myself) i'd still do that as an extra precaution..

now my doctor looked at my shit and said 'use rubbers you'll be ok' the internet told me different, i trust the internet and i'm not out there wildin out by anymeans, i just like to tell myself that oneday i could and it wouldnt ruin someones life.. cuz really, this idea that sex one time will pass it is sooooo terrifying.. i think thats why a lot of people dont tell till after sex

cuz if you're protected and nothin happens, its kinda like 'oh.. well.. i guess then.. its not .. as .. bad as i thought? we can still fuck and i'm not gonna get it? maybe not get it? thats still better then garunteed yes, i'm in'

the concept of having the touch of death hanging between my legs is ruining my life man.....

bah

[fuller]

Please think differently. The guy I was with had it and used a condom and didn't have an outbreak. He was a rebound guy after a 3 year long relationship ended. It was also the time of a death in my family. I was extremley vulnerable at the time and started seeing this guy who seemed really great. I asked if he was tested and he said yes. I thought since we wore a condom it was fool proof. He started acting strange (very clingy at first and then very cold. He looked gulity of something. A week later he made up the worst excuse I had ever heard to dump me (I didn't like metallica)!! He moved an I have never seen or heard from him since. I will never know unfortunatley if it was him or from the person who sexually assaulted me in the same week at a party. They never cought the guy. I heard rumours though that the guy I had dated for a week did have herpes and spread it to a couple of other girls too. So you see I will never know who hgave it to me, but I still think it dopesn't matter. It's just not right. So please don't do it without telling them. One day you'll find someone you feel comfortable enough to tell. ( I did , and the guy still doesn't have herpes) Then you can reassure them with all the things you jsut told yourself. odds are you won't spread it to them. I know it's hard but don't you want to feel good about yourself at the end of the day instead of like crap? You knwo how crappy it is to have this virus and I'm sure you would never wish the same thing that happened to you on anyone else.

[ouch]

"you didn't like metallica and he dumped you"

LOL, I say good, you just have GOOD TASTE!! (don't get me wrong, at one time, they were a decent band, now they are garbage! hahaha)

But he sounds like a kook and I would say he is probably the one who did give it to you and not your assailant. Unfortunately, the assailant probably contracted it from you too....which, in a normal world, I say GOOd...but the bad thing is, he is probably raping other women and passing it onto them.

But you have come a long way since then and are doing great now. PRoves we can and do rise above.

[fuller]

Yeah It's a tourist town where I live. So I think the guy who assaulted me wasn't even from here. So they never cought him here, but he could easily be in jail somehwere else. That is what I like to think anywase. The scariest part was waiting for my HIV test results. So it was really shitty to get herpes but it could have been alot worse. Especially since you ahve to get tested for HIV every three months. So it was alot longer wait, added alot of stress. Made my life scary for a bit. Once that came back negaitive I didn't really care about the herpes thing compared to that. I also think the guy I dated that week was the one who gave it to me. At first I was extremley angry and I couldn't get past it. I had never had an std before. I was always in a steady relationship and really put alot of trust into the guy's I dated. So I guess it really woke me up to be more careful. Once I realized it was my fault too for trusting someone I didn't know well enough with my body and learned to forgive the guy I moved on with my life. I really beleive people are understanding and accepting and are also empathetic. I chose to forgive him becuase my life is so awsome right now, and his probably isn't going to well wherever he is becuase he's living a lie. I think more guys with herpes need to know that it's easier spread to women then it is for a women to spread to a man. So they should never assume if they use a condom everything will be fine. But I agree with you..people can definatley rise above..people are very resourceful and resilient.

[cybertoad]

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[cybertoad]

what is wrong with this web site, lol. Im trying to respond to another post and it keeps bringing me back here!!!

[Zeroblack]

To the original poster. You always have to tell once you know. There can be none or this she didnt ask about herpes thing so i can justify my actions by not telling.

Place the shoe on the other foot. She has hepatitus C (which really can/will kill you) but since you didnt specifically ask about it ... Its ok for her to have sex with you ? Obviously not ... Same same about herpes, hiv, or anything.