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Dating a guy that I just realized I'm in love with. Just found out I have HSV 2. What's the best way to tell him so I don't totally freak him out and so he's less likely to run for the hills? I could really use some sound advice, cause I can't stop crying. Please help.

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ELN137 Honeycomb Member

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definitely before any sexual activity.

if he loves you, he wont run from the hills, just be open and prepared to answer questions.

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make sure you talk with him face to face don't do it over the phone. come out and tell him you have it and explain some of the facts and statistics. try practice saying it to yourself in front of a mirror it will let you be more prepared and maybe even go to a website and print off some information so that if he wants it he will have that to read more about hsv. hope this helps you out a little

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I was feeling like you just 2 weeks ago. Everybody reacts in different ways about different situations and i dont think there could ever be an easy way to tell someone that you have HSV 2. Just be strong and straight forward and no matter what the outcome know that by telling him, you did the right thing and its nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed over. You know yourself that your a wonderful lovable person who deserves to be loved back no matter what and thats what it comes down to.

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Dating a guy that I just realized I'm in love with. Just found out I have HSV 2. What's the best way to tell him so I don't totally freak him out and so he's less likely to run for the hills? I could really use some sound advice, cause I can't stop crying. Please help.

Talk to someone and get control of yourself before you tell him. Being calm about it will help. You also need to be informed about it and answer, as best you can, questions he might have. If it would help, you both might want to see a physician together.

You must be honest and you must be willing to accept the fact that he'll not be able to handle it. That sucks....it happened to me and it is hard to deal with but you'll survive it and move on.

If he can accept it, I would suggest going slow and easy. Take time to know each other better.

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Talk to someone and get control of yourself before you tell him. Being calm about it will help. You also need to be informed about it and answer, as best you can, questions he might have. If it would help, you both might want to see a physician together.

You must be honest and you must be willing to accept the fact that he'll not be able to handle it. That sucks....it happened to me and it is hard to deal with but you'll survive it and move on.

If he can accept it, I would suggest going slow and easy. Take time to know each other better.

It seems this board does not allow editing.

You must be honest and you must be willing to accept the fact that he MIGHT not be able to handle it.

That is what I meant to say originally.

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Please stop crying ,it will be ok. I can totally relate to what you are going through.I am HSV2 positive,my man is not.I took the chicken way out and told him via email but of course he called me right after he read it and we talked about it.I was on the phone crying and everything but thanks to sites like this one I was able to give him the info he needed to know.He is cool with it now.We have unprotected sex and everything.I'm on suppressive therapy.I explained all the risks to him about the transmission rate and he is ok with it,I mean dont get me wrong he doesnt want to get HSV.When I speak to him about HSV I sound like a doctor.I give him percentages and everything.So far so good.Just make sure that when you speak to him you are strong and educated.All will be ok.If it is meant to be,it will be .Good luck and keep us posted.

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