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My partner and I both have HSV 2. This may sound like a stupid question, but if I am having an outbreak, can we still have sex as long as it's not too uncomfortable for me? Will it trigger an outbreak for him? Thanks!

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i suppose thats your call, Caliope is correct, best idea to lay off during outbreaks, but if your and your partner aint bothered, go for it.

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What if you have unprotected sex with someone that is negative but they dont touch the spot that you usually get your outbreaks. Can you still pass it on?

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shedding abiet it only occurs 5% of the time, will occur all over the area covered by the nerve "lines"

if any doubt it there bag up - how can you enjoy sex with worry in your mind.

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Hey Guted, u seems to know a lot about this nasty virus. U were the first one to burst my bubbles telling me that there is no cure when I first signed up here. I am feeling a lot better now, still searching for a cure but beginning to think there is no cure. When I got infected, I had a condom on. U know how the condom don't cover the begining part of your penis. If I have unprotescted sex with my girlfriend that is negative & she doesn't come in contact with my outbreak spot, CAN I STILL PASS IT ON?

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all we can do is reduce the risks - but theres no way in this world we can stop the risks alltogether...

even if u had a condom on, and even if your outbreaks wer at the top, when your cock is going in and out, the fluids will run down your shaft onto your pubic area.

any non HSV partner is taking a risk.

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Pursuing happines, I strongly recommend against having sex during an outbreak or anytime very close to one ending or beginning. I have been so careful for the almost 2 years Ive had this, and unfortunately because I have had such a chronic rash as my symptoms, sex has been very few and far between in these 2 years. Anyhow, I had some redness, which is one of the symptoms I get, and my boyfriend said he thought it wasnt anything to be worried about but i insisted that it is part of the way i get outbreaks and was contagious ( he also has same virus...gave it to me) anyhow, he never gets outbreaks.....he has had 1 small dot appear once when i contracted this from him, and once in the same spot, almost a year and a half later (just for some background info)

My symptoms of outbreaks are a rash in the pubic hair region above my vagina, and invisible, but extremely painful cuts or cut like feelings around the anus.

After we had sex, when only the redness was present in the pubic hair region, 2 days later I had the rash and pain all over my vagina, inside, outside, PLUS the large areas I usually get it. AND he had the same "rash" i get all over his penis so that sucks sooooo bad. But it just goes to show you the reason they say even if both partners have it to 1. always use condoms, even in between outbreaks, and 2. never have sex during an outbreak as it can spread it to other areas not affected yet and reinfect each other with new outbreaks.

I Hope this doesnt happen to you guys... It has been the worst experience having this yet and I have had a pretty extreme and continuously reoccuring symptoms since my diagnosis, but this made it sooo much worse....especially the way it spread from me, to him, and then inside of me and everywhere on mine and his genitals all during the one time we had sex when I had redness present. That was 3 weeks ago and I still have the rash in some of the areas and the disgusting discharge finally stopped a week ago. So, yeah, it is not safe and can make it sooo much worse. Better to wait it out than end up like me, and many others who learned the hard way. Best of luck to you.

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Thank you

Thank you for your input. We played it safe and didn't do it while I had an outbreak. I was on Valtrex for the outbreak and it went away within 5 days. Sorry to hear it's been such a miserable experience for you. I hope mine doesn't end up being like that.... Thanks again!

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Dont worry...yours probably will never end up like mine. I have something wrong with my immune system which has made my it impossible to supress my symptoms since I contracted this. Glad yours go away in a normal time frame...i hope one day that will be the case for me. I wish you continued happiness in your life :)

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