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Hi I'm joejumper.

This is my first time ever joining a support group. I have had the STD for many years and find it difficult to tell the person I'm involved with I make excuses and have always been careful and abstinate when outbreaks occur. I feel it is easier for the female to be accepted than the male. Your comments are welcome. I have just ordered Choraphor is there anyone who has used this product that can discuss your results. I have used Acyclvor which has improved the healing time for outbreaks.

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Hi I'm joejumper.

This is my first time ever joining a support group. I have had the STD for many years and find it difficult to tell the person I'm involved with I make excuses and have always been careful and abstinate when outbreaks occur. I feel it is easier for the female to be accepted than the male. Your comments are welcome. I have just ordered Choraphor is there anyone who has used this product that can discuss your results. I have used Acyclvor which has improved the healing time for outbreaks.

I can't believe this post is for real. I'm speechless.

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I know you are not here for a moral lesson but it is sooooo unfair and selfish to have witheld this info. from the person you are with. You may very well have infected her already (you dont ever need to see visible symptoms to contract this or spread it) being "careful" and abstaining from sex during outbreaks does not mean anything, as most cases of herpes are spread when NOTHING visible is present.......that is why it is so important to tell people you are risking their lives and health. Im here to offer support but sadened by your selfish choices and feel horribly sad for the person you are with, as they are at constant risk and theres a good chance they already got it from you, as you have jeapordized their health and whole future by witholding this crucial information.

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Hi I'm joejumper.

This is my first time ever joining a support group. I have had the STD for many years and find it difficult to tell the person I'm involved with I make excuses and have always been careful and abstinate when outbreaks occur. I feel it is easier for the female to be accepted than the male. Your comments are welcome. I have just ordered Choraphor is there anyone who has used this product that can discuss your results. I have used Acyclvor which has improved the healing time for outbreaks.

Hey Joe,

I wouldn't want you to Not come back because you didn't get postive feedback from this forum.

I have to say I was Furious when I read your post Because you sounded Exactly like my ex-boyfriend who gave me herpes!

He didn't tell me either, He just abstained when he thought he was about to have an outbreak.... He, too, had it for years.

So, I Never had the chance to be apart of the decission (he made) to expose me to herpes.... Now I have it!

What kills me too is that you said you had the STD for years. You know STD stands for SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE. Right?

So, this is a support group for learning how to Live with herpes, for moral support, etc.

I don't think you'll find a soul here who can support you, or anybody else, spreading this virus without disclosing it to a partner BEFORE you sleep with them.

I hope you learn a lot here!! and I hope you start to take responsibility for yourself and your actions.

Welcome.

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You were warned this would happen.

So Joejumper do you or do you not tell your partners you have hsv? You hint that you have a problem being honest about this and you use the excuse that things are easier for women than men.

I was going to give you the benefit of the doubt just to get the answer to my question but I can feel my blood beginning to boil and that tightness in my chest that says you better look out because you're treading on shakey ground.

Honestly dealing with this virus is much easier for most men than for most women. The ratio of infections from women to men versus men to women is very different. Women are almost always on the losing end.

Not only do we have to deal with periods and child birth but std's from sob's like you who are only worried about getting a little tail without taking responsibility for the fallout. Yeah it is so much easier to condemn some unsuspecting woman to a lifetime of painful ob's and physical discomfort than to consider being honest for one brief moment of your life and maybe having to go without sex for one day.

And you wonder why it is harder for men to find partners? it is because so many of you lie or keep secrets just like this.

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Hi I'm joejumper.

This is my first time ever joining a support group. I have just ordered Choraphor is there anyone who has used this product that can discuss your results. I have used Acyclvor which has improved the healing time for outbreaks.

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Point of the support forum

Joejumper has requested to be removed from the support forum.

Seems the point of this thread has been more to badger and to critisize then to offer support...

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joejumper stated he found it difficult in being honest with his partner. Thankfully the people who responded to his post found it in themselves TO BE HONEST - some of us are.

The responses to his post were fairly conservative. Essentially, they advised him to tell his partner.

I think this is good, and fairly predictable, advice.

What else was he expecting?

Many of us have been through hell because of this virus. People do not want to see others go through the same shite they have been through. He has absolutely no right to do what he is doing.

Apparantly he did not appreciate this advice. Why? Because he clearly intends to continue to put someone at risk. Well shame on him.

Were the responses critical - absolutely!!! He's doing something wrong so he should be criticised for it. Badgering? I assume the people who responded were sincere in their messages to him - do the right thing and tell his partner. So no, they were not badgering.

And the reason why I said 't's like being in a parallel universe...', was becasue he was given constructive advice from people about informing his partner, and his response? Asking about medication that can help...who? Himself. Any concern about his partner? None.

Unbelievable.

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Scenario; joejumper's partner finds out she has contracted herpes from joejumper who knows he has it.

joejumper - if you think the responses to your post were critical, and if you didn't like being told you are in the wrong - well then hold onto your hat, because if the above scenario happens, then you aint seen nothin' yet.

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He bailed on the forum because he felt that the members were attacking him instead of giving him constructive advice and support.

He PM'd me to let me have it because I called him an sob and usually I don't do that to people and I admit it was out of line for me to be so hard on a member of the forum.

But nine out of ten posts on here are from women who are having a really hard time dealing with hsv and I couldn't just stay quiet. It made me MAD to hear someone ask for help but disregard how awful it is to have someone lie about their std status or not inform you that you are putting yourself in a position to possibly get an incurable std.

To any guys out there who are dealing with hsv please please please tell your partners before it is too late. Would you approach it differently if you knew the woman of your dreams or your beloved little girl was treated with disregard by a man? Wouldn't you want her to be saved from dealing with this? Wouldn't you want her to be able to make an informed choice?

I have utmost respect for those of you have committed yourselves to disclosing your status and being truthful by making sure that you give every partner a chance to decide for themselves. That is a sign of true character and is to be respected.

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Once again, herpes is the great revealer.

I truly admire those who are standing up for joejumper's girlfriend.

What's the priority here? Protect an anonymous female from becoming infected with HSV, or support joejumper's assault on the girl by giving him indirect advice on how to continue exposing his girlfriend, and make him feel less guilty about it by giving him support?

He wouldn't be so offended if he was planning on telling her.

Reminds me of those who preach that we all must forgive others... when in reality they are talking about themselves being forgiven, usually for something they PLAN on doing in the future.

Once again, herpes is the great revealer.

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