still in shock

[unattractive]

I still cant believe Im even looking for a site like this but I'm glad that they are out there. I am of course new to this but I have 1 son and another on the way in about a month. Im married and he doesnt have it. I just found out and told him a couple of months ago and I feel like my marriage is over. So there is my introduction

[bluefrog]

So what happened? were you tested? how long have you been infected?

[BoxofRain]

how do you know your husband doesnt have it for sure? did he get a blood test and was negative because often it will be negative and then through retesting every few months, the antibodies will finally be present, all the while having herpes without having it show up until a later test.He doesnt need to have symptoms ever to have the virus in his body either. Dont lose hope. Are you going to have a c-section to lower the risk of transmission to the baby? visual inspection of the birth canal can be done at time of delivery, but if you are shedding the virus asymptomatically at that time, there is still a risk of spreading it that way to consider. I hope you have a good doctor and i hope your husband is still being supportive during the pregnancy. If he truly loves you then he should be willing to work with you and support you. He loved you for you, who you were when he met you, who you have been, and through having a child (assuming he's the father of the first child) and now you are pregnant with his child again and because you find out now that you have been carrying this virus for years unkowingly, suddenly he does not love you anymore? If that is the case then he is ridiculous and not a good person. i hope some of this is just in your mind and you're letting your sadness cloud your perception of the situation, and perhaps your marriage is not in fact on its way to being over and your husband will stick by your side. You have support here, as much as it seems so unfair to have to be experiencing this. You are not alone......none of us here ever expected to be on a site like this either i would imagine.....myself included.