one month in

[suzyqsee]

Hi, I just found out a little over a month ago...I had my first initial ob at two weeks post partum with my daughter. not only am i suffering from post partum depression now, finding out about the herpes is so hard to deal with. the meds helped but i got a bacterial infection and had to take yucky antibiotics on top of the antivirals..i'm a mess and i cant focus on my daughter or my fiancee...i started seeking therapy to put this into perspective but no idea where to go from here. since hsv2 is so common as my doc put it they didn't test me for it during my pregnancy....i had no symptoms and no idea and no idea where it came from. i'm at a loss and feel so hopeless and depressed.

[BoxofRain]

Is your daughter ok? has she shown any signs something might be wrong, because often when people dont have any idea they could have genital herpes, they deliver their children vaginally and the risk gets increased of passing it unkowingly to the child, and no symptoms even have to be present. On here there have been two stories of infected babies when the mother had no idea she carried the virus, and had no symptoms of infection at the time of delivery. One case the child died ultimately some time later as a result of complications and the other is a mother who just found out her baby has genital herpes and is dealing with it, as when she had the delivery she had no clue she carried the virus (this was just posted the other day and she is now dealing with it, as she and her partner got tested and determined they were in fact positive and unknowingly transmitted it during the birth with no symptoms of anything present). The posts are on this site, just not sure exactly but if you searched around you could find them. I pray your baby is ok and does not develop symptoms over the next few months/first years. Its such a shame doctors dont test for herpes during pregnancy as a standard included practice. The fact that it is so common should be all the more reason why it should be tested for. It is sad to me to think of the lack of regard there is when it could save a babies life. Its true people with herpes can have babies, and some opt. for having vaginal, in which at the time of delivery the doctor will visually inspect the canal and if they see anything a c-section will be done. However, nothing visible needs to be present and the baby still risks becoming infected due to asymptomatic shedding of the virus, which can very well be occuring without symptoms during the time of birth. A simple blood test during pregnancy could alert unsuspecting mothers to their silent condition and potentially save a life as a result. I know it is so hard to deal with finding out you have herpes and I imagine anything post partum would be even more overwhelming in general, but remember you are not alone. This board offers a lot of great support and we are here for you if you need us. I recommend seeing a naturopathic doctor who specializes in homeopathy to help with your depression and overwhelming sadness over finding out this news and learning to live with it, along with talking with someone. If you want to private message me anytime, Id love to talk with you. Hope today is a little better than yesterday and that tomorrow is a litte better than today. Don't lose hope

[suzyqsee]

I was told that there was no risk to her, so im keeping my mind on that. its a scary thought and i cant imagine what i would do if something happened to her. its all so overwhelming