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Hi, I just found out a little over a month ago...I had my first initial ob at two weeks post partum with my daughter. not only am i suffering from post partum depression now, finding out about the herpes is so hard to deal with. the meds helped but i got a bacterial infection and had to take yucky antibiotics on top of the antivirals..i'm a mess and i cant focus on my daughter or my fiancee...i started seeking therapy to put this into perspective but no idea where to go from here. since hsv2 is so common as my doc put it they didn't test me for it during my pregnancy....i had no symptoms and no idea and no idea where it came from. i'm at a loss and feel so hopeless and depressed.

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Is your daughter ok? has she shown any signs something might be wrong, because often when people dont have any idea they could have genital herpes, they deliver their children vaginally and the risk gets increased of passing it unkowingly to the child, and no symptoms even have to be present. On here there have been two stories of infected babies when the mother had no idea she carried the virus, and had no symptoms of infection at the time of delivery. One case the child died ultimately some time later as a result of complications and the other is a mother who just found out her baby has genital herpes and is dealing with it, as when she had the delivery she had no clue she carried the virus (this was just posted the other day and she is now dealing with it, as she and her partner got tested and determined they were in fact positive and unknowingly transmitted it during the birth with no symptoms of anything present). The posts are on this site, just not sure exactly but if you searched around you could find them. I pray your baby is ok and does not develop symptoms over the next few months/first years. Its such a shame doctors dont test for herpes during pregnancy as a standard included practice. The fact that it is so common should be all the more reason why it should be tested for. It is sad to me to think of the lack of regard there is when it could save a babies life. Its true people with herpes can have babies, and some opt. for having vaginal, in which at the time of delivery the doctor will visually inspect the canal and if they see anything a c-section will be done. However, nothing visible needs to be present and the baby still risks becoming infected due to asymptomatic shedding of the virus, which can very well be occuring without symptoms during the time of birth. A simple blood test during pregnancy could alert unsuspecting mothers to their silent condition and potentially save a life as a result. I know it is so hard to deal with finding out you have herpes and I imagine anything post partum would be even more overwhelming in general, but remember you are not alone. This board offers a lot of great support and we are here for you if you need us. I recommend seeing a naturopathic doctor who specializes in homeopathy to help with your depression and overwhelming sadness over finding out this news and learning to live with it, along with talking with someone. If you want to private message me anytime, Id love to talk with you. Hope today is a little better than yesterday and that tomorrow is a litte better than today. Don't lose hope

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I was told that there was no risk to her, so im keeping my mind on that. its a scary thought and i cant imagine what i would do if something happened to her. its all so overwhelming

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    • CHT
      Hello "FeelingLost".... your fears and concerns are understandable but, nothing you've described regarding the sexual encounter would cause you to contract herpes.... further, your symptoms are not herpes related.  Best of all, your doctor is correct, your results don't show any herpes here.  You can relax.... definitely have your GP take a look at things and see what might be causing the symptoms but, again, none of them are typical herpes related.  I wish you the best in terms of talking to your wife about this encounter.... hopefully she will understand and you both can work through this amicably.  We all make mistakes.... be careful not to beat yourself up too hard over this.... you can become so racked with guilt that you start imagining physical symptoms.  Best of luck.... and take care..... come back to the site if you have questions.
    • FeelingLost75
      Hi (I’m really scared and feel really disappointed in myself and worried about my future), I had oral sex with a condom almost 3 weeks ago and a massage parlor. I also received a hand job at the same time prior to putting a condom on, also may have rubbed my penis on her back a little. Did not touch her genitals I don’t recall any sores on her back. After the event she handed me a pice of TP and after I took off the condom I wiped my penis head to clear away the excess ejaculation…this is where I suspect I got infected, she had just gone pee and wiped and maybe touched a sore or something and then I got it on my penis from the tp? Idk. I’m just flailing.   After this I’ve had discomfort on the skin below the head of my penis and 4 bumps for 2 weeks now, the bumps don’t seem to have changed in size. I also had frequent urination for about a week and have had dull pain in my groin on and off. I also have some pins and needles on the sides of my abdomen/trunk that get worse when I go out in the heat or get dehydrated. I’ve had a lot of trouble sleeping, likely due to guilt and shame and worry about the future.   so I got one test done at 10 days from the event (idk know if this can tell me anything… the doctor assured me it was 100% correct and I don’t have herpes. I was not physically examined). I got a full panel std. neg for everything. HSV-1 results: IgG 0.3 / HSV-2 IgG 0.9 hsv-1 IgM = 2.2 hsv-2 IgM = 3.0 (Reference V. Negative: Less than 9.0 Borderline: 9.0 to 11.0 Positive: Greater than 11.0) I have an appointment with my GP on Thursday, hoping he can help. Will likely go to a std testing service tomorrow to see if I can get in an antiviral proactively. Plan to get tested again this week.    
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    • FeelingLost75
      How are you doing now?
    • TS4real
      May 13 ( day I will never forget).. a guy I was dating and I drank way to much and decided to have anal sex. We did use protection however, not enough lube, wasn’t done correctly and it was painful. So bad that I yelled out and fell off the bed. Anyway, oral was also performed on me anal and vaginal. Flash forward to 3-4 days after that. I was in the most intense pain I had ever felt. I went to a gyn she tool one look and said it looks like herpes. She swabbed me . 2 days after that, yes it’s HSV1 . I was still in pain, irritated anal area and vaginal area and It was unbearable.  today, I still have irritation and itchy and when I pass a bowel i’m in pain and the itch is crazy.     When I first was diagnoses the gyn gave me valtrex which I did not take bc I was in so much pain I could not move for 2 days.  Groin lymphs were swollen I had fever , tired etc.  I am wondering if I had taken the valtrex would it have kinda liked stopped the virus in it’s tracks enough to reproduce? Do people see a correlation between no more outbreaks and immediate initial valtrex  use ? I am 43, I never thought this wound happen as I am not a promiscuous person, I hardly date and I always use protection when I do have intercouse , have yearly std tests. I’m just so sad that i’m at this point right now . I’m trying not to get depressed but this is making my body feel miserable. I’m an avid runner and biker and mom of two teens. I feel like my life as I knew is over. I want to feel better already.
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