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hey im 18 and i have had oral/genital herpes since i was 15 :( from an unwanted sexual partner.... how do i go about telling my new partner that i have it, he is my first person i have been with since my unwanted sexual partner.. i just resently starting taking tablets that can controll it but i hardly have an out break on my genitals mainly in my mouth.

i told my mother and i felt so empty cause she said oh thats ok well get thru it. but i waited so many years to tell her.

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like i tell everyone else, just get it over with.

the quicker you do it the less painfull, like ripping a bandaid off.

just get it out- one night start talking about issues, and just put it out there, i have herpes. sure they will prob be shocked but once you get those 3 words out, the rest of the convo is easier.

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i did it like waxed said..

i just came out with it, after a few "beverages"

then once i had said it i found it alot easier to explain to her the "facts" i didnt sugercoat any of it...

she thanked me for telling her, hugged me, and told me as long as we are careful its not a problem....

and trust me, "its all good now"

just be sure that the person u tell has some integrity, so if he decides he dont want to risk it, he aint gonna go telling everyone.

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okay I do hope you haven't put your new partner at risk all ready. Condoms are not 100% effective against transmitting or contracting hsv.

When I got that infamous call saying my hsv test was positive first I choked, then I sat there transfixed and blurry eyed for about 30 minutes and when I got home from work 1 hour later I called my bf (who does not have it) and told him my horrible news. It was pretty easy, you open your mouth, spit out "I have hsv" and let the conversation go from there. Since you've known a while I hope you are ready with answers to the many questions he will ask.

Good Luck.

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