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I have not had sex in three years. Finally, I have begun dating the man of my dreams (only 5 weeks) and it's progressing towards an intimate relationship but we're not there yet. A few days ago, I noticed what looked like a small lesion on my female genitals (just one) and it looks a little raw with a tiny bit of white puss coming from it. Is it possible that since I have not been with anyone in three years that I could have herpes. I had something similar to this a few months ago and it went away in about 7 or 8 days.

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Hi Moxie,

no one will be able to diagnose you here. It is possible that it is herpes. It is also possible it's not. The only way to know for sure is to make an appointment with your doctor. You've waited this long to be intimate...please hold out a little longer until you know. The results should be back within 2 weeks or so. Please, you'll be happy you did. God forbid if it is positive you wont have the guilt of wishing you could have done things differently. Condoms will not protect you from passing it on if you are having an active outbreak.

Wishing you the best of luck,

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since you had it, a few months ago- its prob that you have had it before. even though you havent had sex in 3 years. you can still have herpes w/o outbreaks.

herpes can stay in your system years, 2- 20+ and never do anything, then one day oh look a outbreak.

go get tested, sounds like it, dont have sex w/ him until you get your test results and that includes oral sex. and tell him.

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There are two types of tests for herpes. One is a bloodtest and the other is a swab taken of the infected area and then cultured in a lab.

A bloodtest often will show if you have antibodies to hsv which will only be present if you have been infected. There are two types of herpes symplex and both can be infections of the mouth or the genitals and they are called herpes simplex 1 or 2. It is common to get a false negative but not a false positive. The Western Blot is the test to get if you have a choice.

A swab is very reliable if you have an active ob at the time you are tested. It is difficult to culture in the lab. However if the virus is not present on the skin at the time of the swab the test will be negative which does not necessarily mean that you do not have herpes.

If you have an ob when you go to the dr I recommend that you ask for both if possible.

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