Hi, Im 16 and i went to the doctor yesterday.

[thatgirl48]

I lost my virginity a week and a half ago to my pretty good guy friend. i wasnt like omg i lost my virginity, but i was kindof relieved it happened. we didnt use protection because im on birth control for my skin. 4 days ago i noticed a little cut down there that started burning when i peed. i put neopsorin on it cause i figured it was just a cut. then 3 days ago it started to swell and hurt even more down there... then 2 days ago the pain became unBEARABLE! i noticed a couple little bumpies, and then i figured it was a yeast infection. i got the monistat 1 thing, the cream helped a little. then yesterday alot of bumps showed up. i told my stepmom about the yeast thing and her and my dad took me to the doctor. i asked them if this will all stay confidential and they said it can if i dont want my parents knowing what is wrong with me. as the doctor looked down there she said "oh no honey im going to test you for herpes" she ended up testing me for hiv, herpes, gonnorhea and chlamydia. we dont KNOW what the results are yet but they are going to keep me in touch. she put me on valtrex, so i have herpes. my parents have no idea whats going because i dont want them to know! im visiting my mom on the 7th in two days and i think maybe i should tell her. is there any cream you guys know of that i can get at cvs, because wow its unbearable to use the bathroom. i looked this morning and its pretty bad alot of bumps but the valtrex should help alot right? i just need aot of help since im so new and i dont have a parent or anything to talk to. thanks a bunch guys and stay strong.

[Caliope]

wow what a bummer. You should see results from the Valtrex within about 5 days and it should be uphill from there. For the time being you do not want to put anything with hydrocortisone on the blisters.

You can take tylenol or aspirin for the pain, if you are not allergic to them, and drink plenty of water. For soothing comfort you might find relief from soaking in the tub with epsom salts. They are available at the drug store and are mainly for muscle aches but will help things to calm down. Aveeno sells a product for adding to the bath called Active Naturals and the one to pick is the one designed for itches such as poison oak or ivy. Either one will help.

If it hurts to pee take a bottle of water to the bathroom with you and pour it over your privates while you pee it will ease some of the discomfort. pat dry.

And for future reference. If you have herpes (hsv) there is no cure and it will never go away completely. It is contagious and you must tell your partners about this before you engage in sex. This includes oral sex. You can transmit this to someone orally if they give you oral sex and if you have genital contact you can infect them genitally. Hsv is contagious during active ob's and during asymptomatic shedding. Which means you will never know when you are contagious so you have to practice safe sex all of the time and you have to warn your partners that they can get it from you.

Condoms are not 100% effective against contracting or transmitting hsv. Your bf needs to know that this has happened. He needs to get tested and he needs to know that he can infect other people. Valtrex will help reduce the ob's and the chances of transmitting hsv but it is not 100% guaranteed.

Here are two links that you may find informative one is on the different kinds of hsv and the other is about relief during ob's.

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/herpes_simplex_1_and_2.htm

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/immune-system.htm

[thatgirl48]

dii

ahh yeah thank you so much. um yeah im not going to have sex for a long while. its not worth it. but thanks alot

[ouch]

hey there...

First off kiddo, let me just say you seem to be handling this situation like a champ, and I am very proud of you. This disease/virus has made grown men/women freak out and lose it and you are handling it better than most adults. I know I freak out on occasion myself, so again, kudos to you for being so damn strong and honest with yourself.

I am so sorry that your first time was marred by this. have you talked to you buddy about it?? you need to, as he may be unaware (or in denial) that he has herpes and spreading it around. This is a lifelong virus, and as you are learning, a pain in the ass (no pun intended...ahem...) when you have an outbreak. The initial outbreak can be the worst, hopefully latter outbreaks will not be as bad.

In the future, you will have to tell any sexual partners of your status. You might deal with some real assholes when telling, but better to do the right thing, be honest and tell, then to spread it to an innocent victim. You will find most people are accepting of hsv, since SO MANY people have it. Remember this too...all those folks you see walking around with cold sores on their mouth...yep...they have herpes too. They can cover it up and give it a prettier name, but nope....they have herpes. Might be herpes simplex 1 (usually is) occasionally it is herpes simplex 2...but regardless coldsores = HERPES. So believe me , you are not alone in this.

As for stuff to put on the va-jay jay....well, sometimes what I do is take a nice cool shower....kinda rinse off down there with lukewarm even cold water. It sounds crazy but if it really hurts to pee, take a pee while IN the shower. When drying off, rather than using a towell, use a blow dryer. Not too hot of course, but this will dry you up better AND might help in preventing spreading. If you do use a wash cloth or towel around the infected area, get it in the wash right away. Towels can potentially carry the virus on it, so.....better to be safe than sorry.

Some people use A and D ointment on their sores. Use that , but you might want to wear a pad or panty liner, as it can get messy. The key thing is to keep the area dry and clean. Some people use corn starch to keep the area dry. Honestly, I usually take a qtip and clean up with some hydrogen peroxide to clean the area up. helps dry out the lesions alot faster too. Stings like heck, but at least I know it is cleaning up the area good. Be sure to wash your hands very well after coming into contact with the virus. It is hard not to...(come in contact with the sores) so thorough handwashing is a must, especially now while the virus is new....you are more apt to spread it elsewhere right NOW while your body is still in the process of working up antibodies against it.

There are ointments that the doctor can prescribe to put on it, perhaps give your doctor a call for those too. Especially if it seems to be taking a while to clear up.

You will find a bevy of good and usual information on here. Again, I am so sorry your first time had to be like this, but I think you will be just fine. YOU stay strong and keep your chin up and a positive attitude. If you ever have questions or need help, you can ask any of us here or send a PM to me as well. I am more than happy to try and answer any questions.

Ouch