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Hi to everyone on this site..........Blessings to you all!

Well I googled this site as I was trying to find ot more about Herpes. I have been dating my partner for 4 months now and he recently told me how he has herpes. I wasnt mad at him or never will I be. I think it is such a brave thing to be able to tell someone and pray the other can understand. Well it wasnt his fault he has it either but is it anybody's.........Anyway we havent been sexually active yet, but I Love him very much, and I must admit that I am a bit scared, I've been trying to listen to other peoples stories and everyone is different..I just wanted to know what the likely hood of me being infected would be, as I have heard that you can get affeced even if the person is not having an ob............. I want to be able to support my partner the best way I can. We havent really spoke about it and how it really affects him, I think he is scared that I may leave and treat him like the rest but its not in my heart to do that.. Can anybody fill me in on how to go about this without stepping on egg shells? Thanking you all In-advance for your responses.

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I like that he told you before becoming sexually active and I like that you are taking time to get to know each other before going there. I also admire you for being willing to do some research and not freaking out. Take all the time in the world to be sure before you make a decision. Once you go there - there may be no turning back.

It is important to know that there is a huge stigma attached to this virus but not to others that are quite similar. There is no cure and it is contagious. Some people can have it and never even know. It is possible to have it and never have an ob or to have it and have many ob's. Nobody has the same experience.

Some people will tell you to run and never look back and others will admire that you are willing to consider a relationship with this risk. There are couples where one partner has hsv and the other doesn't and they never transmit it to the other. There are antiviral suppressive medications that can be taken to reduce the risk of spreading hsv to your partner when combined with safe sex practices.

How about I attach some links and if you have specific questions just ask.



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Hi Caliope, blessings to you!

Thanks so much for your quick reply and thank you for being straight to the point. Yes im the type of person if you tell me the truth in the 1st place I will respect you more. I think it would benefit both of us if I research. I want to be there for him just as much as he would for me. Im about to look through the links you gave me, but on that note I dont think running solves anything, I believe that sometimes we cross paths with people for a reason, whether it is to give a kind word a helping hand, a smile, to help them through a time of sickness or even just shed a tear with them it is a blessing not just for us but for the individual, but I understand about the no turning back.

Thank you Caliope

Stay Blessed

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I have GHSV and my partner doenst...

she decided she loves me too much to let it stop us, and i take anti virals to hel psupress the virus, and when i have an ob, we refrain from sex, when its cleared up we use condoms for a weeks or two, then just have normal sex after..

its seems to be working for us, but thier is always that risk.. no matter how many precautions you take...

i salute you, for taking the time to find out about the virus,

i hope you decision involves your other half..

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Welcome to the forum.

I am so glad that you support him and went searching for information to learn more.

It is very good to be as informed as you can on HSV.

I hope things go well for you both.


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Thanks Gutted, I totally feel you on how your partner feels, cause I feel the same and yes any decision I do make would involve my partner, it would'nt be fair other wise....

Thanks also to you Angel Honey............:)

What I must say about finding this site is that so far everbody seems to show so much love and care for each other newbie or long timer, I thank God for each and everyone on here and pray God will continue to bless you all, and continue to give you wisdom to help others who are looking for help and answers, (just like me) even just someone to listen too, it is such a relieve even if you get just 1 reply......Bless you all :)

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