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i think this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life.

i don't know how to handle this. i have only been with 2 partners, and now this. IT'S NOT FAIR.

i am not even old enough to legally buy a drink or rent a car. and yet i feel like i have lost my future. i used to want to get married and have children and i feel like that is over.

who would want me now? i wouldn't.

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Im 20... and a female.. while ive had more sexual partners.. being depressed isnt going to make the disease go away.... and since reading ... ive learned that 1 in 5 people has herpes, being that if you stood in a room w/ 100 people, 20 would have it (approx).

Perhaps this is going to help you choose the right mate, and weed out the bad ones....

We could have it alot worse.

Sores arent going to stop me from living my Life, and they certainly shouldnt stop you, or anyone else.

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hey im 25 M

had the little monsters since 2004/5

had a few girlfriends since then, all known about my virus, all still wanted to be with me...

honesty is the best policy - when u tell someone, stand there holding your head high, giving that person the choice is the best thing u can do...

be picky about your men now, thenonly thing u really lose is the chopice to jump into bed with someone - a choice that got most of us in this mess TBH.

your stil a beutiful woman ,with alot to give...

hell things cud be alot worse, and given time ull agree with me on that one..

hold your head high girl...

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25 y.o. F only 1 week since my first outbreak

I just want to say that since joining this forum I instantly began to feel a hell of a lot better about myself and this foreign disease new to my body. Everyone's messages are from the heart and so powerful. I haven't posted many messages myself about how I am feeling but just through reading posts by others and what some of you have replied is enough positive reinforcement. You all are such a great group of ppl to share your stories and remedies and advice. It has really gotten me through this first week, which in my opinion is the toughest being so new to all of this.

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  • 2 months later...

diseased before our first legal drink

20 y.o. female, 3 days since diagnosis.

i dont even know what to say, I'm not at the point yet where I can give you advice or tell you it gets better. I can just say yeh, it really sucks. I left my wonderful boyfriend of two years to see other people cause I felt like we were getting too serious. i wanted to date and watever. so I met this guy and he was funny and nice, we started seeing eachother, i was stupid and we slept together and didnt use protection. Now here I am, diseased. I told him last night that he gave it to me, what do you say to that? The weird thing is, I should be furious. But I'm not, I dont have the energy to be. its like, being mad, it wont change it, it wont take it back, it wont cure me or make it hurt less. now he's in the same boat I am, why make it worse? i hope things get better for you, i hope each day gets better for both of us. And I hope by the time I can legally drink, that I'm able to smile again.

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young age group...a growing problem...

26 y/o F lived with GH for 4 years...almost 5:)

It seems to me that the younger generation age group is affected by this disease....younger people have the highest risk of stds period. I know it seems hard right now to cope. I was there at one time. I have been with 6 people total in my life...I felt as if my life was over. Every guy I ever slept with I would make them get tested before I actually had sex with them. I was always paranoid about pregnancy and diseases. The person with whom I got this from, was a friend I have had for years...and I just figured.."oh he is my friend he doesnt have anything" the one time I decided to have unprotected sex with someone-it happend to me. It was stupid on my part to just assume. It turned out for the best...I have two beautiful children and a loving husband. Life does go on after a diagnosis...all that it changes, is being careful with other people and decisions you make from here on out. Always be honest...that is the best policy!! And trust me people will want you...newly diagnosed feel this way because for the first year ob's are more recurrent then later years. You will see a decrease in that over time. I rarely have an ob these days...and when I do it is mild, and I chose not to take drugs because I am in a monogomous relationship. keep the faith...you will be fine and if you feel like you are going crazy, there is always good people on here to help you:)

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Hey Hellothere,

Although most of you who responded to this post are quite young, I have a little story to share with you. I have only had herpes since april 2007. The guy who gave this to me 99.9% certain anway, still wanted to have sex with me, even after I was diagnosed. Of course I said no because i was in pain and furious and upset, etc. Since then I have not been with anybody, however, I have been hit on and asked out by men ranging in age from mid 50's to 30. (BTW, I am a divorced woman, age: 44, with four children). So far, ALL of these men/boys (LOL) are looking for one thing: S E X. How do I know, because they either come out and say it or after two dates, if I don't "give it up", they fade away. Ya know what; (1) who needs them, (2) we may feel "tainted", but there are lots of people out there who will still want you, (3) although feeling quite insecure after contracting this, these "hits" reassure me that I am still a desirable, beautiful woman.

You are still a beautiful young woman. There is somebody out there for you. We have a "flaw" (as I read in an earlier post this morning). It took me to have my second ob, to actually accept that I have herpes (yes, it seemed all too surreal, like I was living somebody else's life, not my own).

But ya know what, I have herpes. I will continue to live my life, to the fullest, and I know that someday, when I am ready, I will have a beautiful loving relationship with somebody who loves me and wants to be with me, not somebody who just wants to have sex and have another notch on their belt.

Hang in there.....:p

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Hang in there

I was about 2 weeks into a great relationship when I found out I had it and all I though was great I have this amazing guy in my life and now I have to go home and not only tell him I have this but also he has to know that there is a chance than I may have all ready given it to him :( I was scared to death.... I told him and he wrapped his arms around me and told me that nothing would make him stop loving me that "we" will make it through this. True strong love will sustain anything and nothing gets in the way of true love. we are now engaged and have actully been trying to get pregnant for the last few months now and he isnt afraid of getting it because he wants us to have a family and knows that that is something he is taking a chance at. He loves me no matter what and through everything. so hold ur head up high cause I am sure you will run into some real jerks along the way but just know that there is someone out there that will love you for you and everything that is you.

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