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Hi everyone, just found this forum after 2 years of searching.....here it goes..i was diagnosed approx. 1 1/2 years ago with HSV2. I am currently married and have no clue how or where i got this from. The hardest thing for me when i found out was telling my husband. It actually went better than i thought it would. He was totally understanding and did not get upset or anything.....i was shocked!....anyway, I still have my own issues to contend with, I cant seem to adjust to this and I cannot talk to my husband because he doesn't understand. I feel like I'm dirty or something and worst when i have an outbreak...anyway, I'm not sure this is the exact forum to get into my feelings or if I should just be introducing myself here so thats all I'll say for now..........in the meantime i will get myself familiar with this forum so I dont make a mistake and post somewhere I shouldn't.

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there are some areas that seem more appropriate than others to get the response you're looking for but I usually go in and click on new posts and don't pay attention to the category. Others might do the same thing.

I'm glad you found the forum I think you'll find that it is a very supportive place to discuss hsv or how you're feeling in general.

for starters you aren't dirty. you have a virus that is so common that at least 1 in 4 people has it and most don't even know. that's a lot of people.

Honestly it is common to have hsv for years and not know where it came from. Most of us are disappointed to learn that the std testing we had never included tests for hsv or that no one told us that cold sores were herpes and you can contract them from oral sex. Not to mention that condoms aren't that effective either. Big giant examples of misinformation causing lots of pain.

It's great that your husband took it well did he ever get tested for hsv?

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I cant help but to feel dirty...especially now during this outbreak and i cant believe i even had an outbreak with this famvir that i am taking...i have never had one while taking the suppresive meds...this is so annoying.....i cant tell anyone about it, at least i dont want to.......as for my husband, he does not want to get tested and nothing i say will change his mind, he has just accepted the fact that he has it as well and thats that, although he has never had an outbreak....i really must say, he doesnt know what i go through emotionally, when an outbreak occurs....i just cant talk to him about it cause he has a way of minimizing how i feel about it, and to me its a big deal.

btw, thanks for your response, it is really appreciated!

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I'm sorry that you feel so badly about yourself you don't deserve that. The ob's really suck and unless you experience them it is hard to relate to and definitely not something that is easy to share with others even though it is a very common affliction.

Per the info you provided I would be in favor of the idea that your husband is the origin or your infection but that is just my opinion. Quite often the partner who acts unconcerned or doesn't seem shocked has known about their own infection for a while and is either in denial or is happy to let the other take the emotional responsibility for the infection. If this is the case I am sure you don't feel very supported and that is unfortunate.

I am curious about the antivirals. Do you take them to keep from having ob's? if they seem to not be helping you may want to consider trying Valtrex or Acyclovir instead but if you don't get ob's you may want to go with vitamin supplements etc. to control the symptoms.

Have you checked out this link?

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/immune-system.htm

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I'm sorry that you feel so badly about yourself you don't deserve that. The ob's really suck and unless you experience them it is hard to relate to and definitely not something that is easy to share with others even though it is a very common affliction.

Per the info you provided I would be in favor of the idea that your husband is the origin or your infection but that is just my opinion. Quite often the partner who acts unconcerned or doesn't seem shocked has known about their own infection for a while and is either in denial or is happy to let the other take the emotional responsibility for the infection. If this is the case I am sure you don't feel very supported and that is unfortunate.

I am curious about the antivirals. Do you take them to keep from having ob's? if they seem to not be helping you may want to consider trying Valtrex or Acyclovir instead but if you don't get ob's you may want to go with vitamin supplements etc. to control the symptoms.

Have you checked out this link?

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/immune-system.htm

Per the info you provided I would be in favor of the idea that your husband is the origin or your infection but that is just my opinion. Quite often the partner who acts unconcerned or doesn't seem shocked has known about their own infection for a while and is either in denial or is happy to let the other take the emotional responsibility for the infection. If this is the case I am sure you don't feel very supported and that is unfortunate.

I think you could be right but i didnt want to place the blame without the proof....initially i didnt know what i had although it came and went often. and since we've been together since 1987 and both had stepped out of the relationship it was hard to say.....although your theory makes sense. Initially he was the first to come up with a unknown rash across his back plus he often got bruised when we had sex (hope this is ok to post), everything was always him (and I know that means nothing), but prior to me meeting him, i had never had what I have come to know as an OB. He could have known and that could explain his non chalant attitude (that sucks) but nevertheless, i can't be sure so I didn't blame him.

I am curious about the antivirals. Do you take them to keep from having ob's? if they seem to not be helping you may want to consider trying Valtrex or Acyclovir instead but if you don't get ob's you may want to go with vitamin supplements etc. to control the symptoms.

Initially my primary, who diagnosed me, gave me famvir for approx. a week ...it worked....however, the nextime i had an outbreak i called my gyn and faxed over my positive lab results...he put me on 6 months of suppressive therapy with the famvir....that was working too...but approxiamately 2 months after i stopped taking it, I had another OB....he again put me on another 6 months trial with no guarantee that it would work...well it did... now we are at the present time and i have the current OB, so he gives me 3 months supply since i am due to see him in august...well it appeared to be working then I guess i was stressed or something and I had a break-through outbreak, although I am currently taking the suppressive meds....well I cant wait to see him so I can suggest some of the meds above....his nurse told me that the valtrex wasn't for everyone so i have to speak to him about that....in addition, my primary suggested that i may need to see an infectious disease doctor so that he/she could determine which meds would work best for me, if it became necessary.....I may have to take that route cause i'm running out of options....I wish there was some herb or some miracle drug that would suppress my OB permanently or at least longer than 6 months....this really sucks!

I'm gonna check out that link you posted above right now and I want to thank you again for taking the time to respond to my post....sorry I got so long winded....:)

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I don't often see the necessity of placing blame. I used to tell my kids there are problems and solutions it doesn't matter who did it it only matters who fixes it.

I use the antivirals and take vitamin supplements and I just started a new supplement this week that I hope to see some positive results with.

Hormones can be responsible for an increase in ob's for some women and this is something you might want to look at if there have been any changes lately such as new birth control, pregnancy . . . depends on age too.

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I'm new to this forum for you. I just got the news last week and it's hard. I know exactly what you mean by feeling dirty, but you keep your head and know that you are still beautiful. God bless and I will pray for you.

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