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Caliope Platinum Support Member

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I got my hsv 2 diagnosis in January and I'm bound and determined to live a full and happy life. I'm not letting hsv stand in the way of me moving forward.

This weekend I invited my guy over and barbecued and snuggled on the couch. I visited with my mom. I took my car for maintenance. I went to the mall and did some shopping. I even found time to buy some flowers to plant in my yard.

This week I went to the gym, bought some new vitamins, had my house appraised and signed the papers to get it refinanced. My future is looking bright.

I'd like to hear from other people and what you've been doing that makes you feel normal and happy and free from hsv.

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i'm trying

Hi Caliope,

I was diagnosed in May 2007. I am still struggling with accepting this, have nobody to talk to about it because I refuse to tell anybody, and have been feeling really down since yesterday (I think it is pms, however, hard to tell because since March my periods have been out of whack).

Anyway, on a more positive note, I treat myself to a manicure and pedicure every two weeks. I visit a local American Veterans Club that I used to bartend at to hang with people that I enjoy being with and make me feel good. These people have no clue about my diagnosis, so when I am there, I tend to forget about it, which is a good thing. I have been putting every possible hour on the weekends that I have available doing yardwork and gardening, which I love to do. (no clue how i ended up with italic print here LOL).

I know that this is my life now, and I am normally a very positive person, so a few bumps in the road, here and there, I guess are expected. I feel that being on this site and reading the positive posts, especiallly about relationships with hsv, make me feel better also.

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Caliope - your positive attitude is absolutely fantastic. Although I'm not personally infected, my partner is and he sometimes gets depressed about things and I do my best to drag him back to his feet by getting out and doing some of the things you mentioned. Thanks for sharing!

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Caliope, It's been about 4 months since my diagnosed. Herpes isn't as bad as I thought it was when first diagnosed. The most that is going to happen to me is I will get a few little bumps in my genital area. There are a lot of worst things out there. Not saying that I like it but I will definately not let it get me down like I used to when first diagnosed. This virus is a lot more mental than physical. I too is looking to refinance my house & purchase another one. I think the best way to fight this virus is to maintain a healthy life style. Life is too short to sit around and mope.... :)

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I can not wait to get to this point. I see the light at the end of the tunnel, but the journey feels really long right now. I am going to try my damndest to get where you all are...it is all still very new to me. If anyone has any tips to help me through these first weeks and months, I would really appreciate any advice.

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The best advice I can give you is to treat yourself like you are the most important person in the world. Put yourself first, get lots of sleep, drink lots of water, eat healthy food and exercise.

If it makes you happy to get out of the house and take a walk then do it. If it makes you happy to get a massage or a new haircut don't put it off just do it. The stressful stuff can wait. Cleaning the house till it's spotless can wait but you need to enjoy this life that has been given to you.

You only live once and it makes no sense to put yourself second or third. If you don't treat yourself with dignity and respect then who else will. Don't neglect even one aspect of your life concentrate on mind, body and spirit.

Do these things for yourself and soon you will be feeling better. This is your wake up call to make sure that you spend the rest of your days cherishing your self.

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Thank you. It is quite ironic that I have ignored my own needs for so long and I have to be in this situation to recieve my wake up call. I know I will get there soon enough.

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i finding life good at the mo, only really think about my HSV when i log onto ere..

probs cus ive got a wonderful girlfriend, and we are living and loving life at the moment....

would still like to win the lottery tho...

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Amen Sister

Caliope,

I Loved what you said here! ...Such sage advice!

I have to say that this has been quite an eye opening experience for me too.

I took care of myself before, But I put things off in life, and I took some things too seriously.

I have found my inner playmate again! :mrgreen::mrgreen::mrgreen: lol

I am enjoying myself and the special people in my life more than I have in a long time.

I agree it's a Mind, Body, Spirit package.

Balance is a great goal in life.

The best advice I can give you is to treat yourself like you are the most important person in the world. Put yourself first, get lots of sleep, drink lots of water, eat healthy food and exercise.

If it makes you happy to get out of the house and take a walk then do it. If it makes you happy to get a massage or a new haircut don't put it off just do it. The stressful stuff can wait. Cleaning the house till it's spotless can wait but you need to enjoy this life that has been given to you.

You only live once and it makes no sense to put yourself second or third. If you don't treat yourself with dignity and respect then who else will. Don't neglect even one aspect of your life concentrate on mind, body and spirit.

Do these things for yourself and soon you will be feeling better. This is your wake up call to make sure that you spend the rest of your days cherishing your self.

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