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Shayna

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OMG!

Today was one of the best days I've had in a long..long time!

At this moment I am incredibly happy!

Which Freaks me out completely to think any further!!

When I was in Mexico (almost two months ago) I met a group of people at our hotel. For two weeks we all hung out together, and had a Blast! There was one single guy in the group and we spent most of our time together. We talked a lot, rode the banana boats together, played, went out to eat...Just enjoyed each others company. We exchanged emails and phone numbers when it was time to say goodbye. He said he would come and visit me sometime.

Well, Today was the day.

He drove down to see me. He picked me up for a visit and we spent the entire day together. It was fabulous! The day was gorgeous, the sun was shining, he had the top down on the car, and we drove through the scenic gorge...went to three water falls, to Hoods canal and watched wind surfers, went out to eat, and talked non stop.

We ended by having a drink sitting outside on the river. I was having such a nice time, it wasn't until this man was saying these wonderful things to me that made me think about my situation. I was looking at this great guy as he was saying..."I really enjoy being with you. I'm serious when I say I want to spend time with you. We have a ball together and I want to start seeing you". My head started spinning and not from the drink.

What am I going to do????!!!!

This is a great guy! This is someone I could see myself with for a long-long time kinda guy...a possible forever kind of guy. He's fabulous and I am terrified to have to speak those dreded words to him one day!

"I have herpes"

GAWD!

Throw me a line here...please...I need some help!

I deserve a nice life..I have a lot to give..I could make someone happy...I don't want to lose this because I have HSV!

This turned out to be a rant...but I don't want to re-write it. Sorry!

It was a stream of thought.

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Head spinning...

It's hard to tell someone what they should say to anyone else concerning something that might be a negative or positive in their lives, but I will tell you this. I wouldn't jus come out and say I have Herpes to someone who has no clue possible.

It's not like having AID's, Menengitas, or some other ailment that can possibly kill. It's a damper on one's life every once in awhile if treated, and from what I have learned in the short time of knowing I possibly have it is that it's harder for a female to give than a male to give to female.

So, with saying that, I would say that I would give him some litature to read so he can become educated about what it's all about, and go through it together. Get facts that explain it clear as possible, and he shouldn't be mad or upset at ya as long as you haven't had relations to that point.

He can only make an educated decision from there.

I wish you the best

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Well, Today was the day.

He drove down to see me. He picked me up for a visit and we spent the entire day together. It was fabulous! The day was gorgeous, the sun was shining, he had the top down on the car, and we drove through the scenic gorge...went to three water falls, to Hoods canal and watched wind surfers, went out to eat, and talked non stop.

We ended by having a drink sitting outside on the river. I was having such a nice time, it wasn't until this man was saying these wonderful things to me that made me think about my situation. I was looking at this great guy as he was saying..."I really enjoy being with you. I'm serious when I say I want to spend time with you. We have a ball together and I want to start seeing you". My head started spinning and not from the drink.

What am I going to do????!!!!

This is a great guy! This is someone I could see myself with for a long-long time kinda guy...a possible forever kind of guy. He's fabulous and I am terrified to have to speak those dreded words to him one day!

"I have herpes"

GAWD!

Throw me a line here...please...I need some help!

I deserve a nice life..I have a lot to give..I could make someone happy...I don't want to lose this because I have HSV!

This turned out to be a rant...but I don't want to re-write it. Sorry!

It was a stream of thought.

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Shayna, feel so happy for you! Tell him when the moment comes...

I did that yesterday and he said was ok, then I asked him don't have to answer me so fast, think about it first.

We went swimming and dancing and talked for hours, then started to full around, things got heated up, I insisted to keep my clothes on. After caught up breath, I told him how good he feels, and I loved it, and asked him if he had anything to tell me, then I told him I have H and taking pills trying to keep it under control.

When I prepared to leave, he asked me to stay over, so it seemed still Ok. But I will give it a few days for him to think about it while keep meeting him...

Good luck for you!

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annyi,

Thank you so much. ;)

I'm excited for you too! It sounds like it went really well for you. That's so good to hear. I hope you will keep me posted on how it goes?!

Keep enjoying and I wish you all good things!!!

I know it won't be long before I have to break it to him.

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Thanks Shay. Um, I am not very optimistic though... dating is pretty tough in this area, even without any situations! So I would not blame on H if it doesn't work out... :rolleyes:

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Hey Shayna, tell him. He sounds like a great guy so I'm hopeful and sure that he'll have an open enough mind to know that you can have a healthy and happy relationship, even w/one partner having herpes. For all you know, he could admit to you the exact same thing. Blessings to you and your NEW relationship!

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Thank you so much Mrsbutterworth (love that name) lol

To be honest, it gives me so much anxiety when I think about it..I may have to do it over a drink. (if I don't run for the hills first)

No, he wouldn't have it himself. He was married to his highschool sweetheart forever. Sadly, She passed away from cancer.

Thank you for the sweet inspiration! :)

Shay

(side note: annyi...did u get my PM?)

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dying to know what happened next.

Nothing has happened yet...

Because he lives a couple of hours away I have had a good run at keeping us from seeing each other....But that's not going to work any longer.

He busted me...Today he responded to my last email by saying he wants to come visit more often and do things together. Andddd he wants to take me on a trip.

No longer can I put off telling him. He wants a relationship and I have been trying to muster up the courage to spit it out.

Honestly...I have an unreasonable anxiety over this. It makes my stomache hurt and I just want to go lay down....

I'll be telling him very soon.

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Shayna

Shayna, Its amazing how we are in the exact, identical BOAT!!!!! Meaning wants a relationship, trip, spending family time together. Moving, etc.,.

You know what Shayna. I was thinking last night on how I was going to tell him. Although I want to get to better know him and stuff. I was actually talking it aloud.LOL. This is so crazy Shayna. Girl just give it time. He seems so perfect. He wants to be so serious with you. Pray about it and he'll give you an answer.

Ps. Did u get my pm

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  • 2 weeks later...

any update yet? I'm dying to know how it went. I hope it went wonderfully and you have not updated because you've been spending most your time with him. tehe.

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wow..I was going to update this tonight and voila...you beat me to it.

Well....I've been busy.... but not with him.

My attempt at keeping him at bay until I felt more comfortable telling him backfired.

He was ready to get into a relationship and I blew it. I put him off too long and he took that to mean I wasn't interested...which made the idea of me living so far away less appealing for him to go after. I will probably look back at this and kick myself!

He is so much fun and so sweet, But I'm just not ready for a relationship. I don't think anything good comes from something rushed, and I was feeling rushed when I wasn't ready to disclose my hsv status. I wanted to date for a while until I really knew if I wanted to get physical with him...But the fact he lives a couple of hours away made that too complicated.

I have to say I'm OK with it though.

He's a GREAT guy and a GREAT catch...But I'm still not ready.

I have to wrap my head all the way around this before I'll feel comfortable starting a new relationship. I feel optimistic that when I'm ready I'll find someone special. For now, I'm happy single and I have Lots of time for my friends.

That's the way it goes.

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Sounds bitter sweet. I once dated some one for two years that lived about 3 hours away from me. And I did'nt own a car the first year. Long go.. tehe. Well, I believe most things happen for a reason/ Any which way I hope you have peace over all this.

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