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I have Herpes. :( My husband has been having symptoms on and off for 3 years...I have NEVER had not one symptom. I had blood work done for Herpes last week, and the doctor called to confirm a positive result :( I suspected it so im not in shock, but it still is depressing and hurts to think about.

We have a 19 month old son, and he is my biggest worry. I hope my husband and I do not transfer the virus on to him. Im scared to death! I also want to have more children, and im hoping that this wont be a major problem.

I have learned sooo much about this virus from this site and it has been such a big help to me. I now understand how this virus works and how it spreads, and I now know im not alone. I didnt realize how many people really do have this virus, and that you dont have to be "dirty" to get it.

I have a question for ladies with the virus: If you experience any vaginal discharge, what is it like (color/consistency)?

Thanks Everyone!

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i had discharge during my ob, that was like puss, not like normal discharge- it was more like yellow/cream tinted, very runny consistancy, i figure its from the sores ozzing. as the sores went away the discharge slowly went away aswell.

its common to have yeast during a outbreak as well, and have that yeast infection discharge- kind of clumpy.

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Thanks for the response! I have a VERY PAINFUL Bartholin's Abscess right now that is making it hard for me to walk and sit....so I am going to my gyn tomorrow for that issue. Im having a white, milky discharge and didnt know if it was from my cyst, or bacterial vaginosis. Its not clumpy or any other color than white/light grey. It also doesnt have an odor. I have around 25 written questions for my gyn tommorrow so hopefully I will get more answers :) Thanks for your advice!

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I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Hopefully you won't experience many active ob's.

I've had a discharge on two occasions that is herpes related. It is similar to a yeast infection in that it is itchy, the skin gets red and inflamed and it has an almost gritty consistency as if the discharge contains tiny fragments of my skin that appears to be peeling internally. It is creamy white. No bad odor or discoloration. It goes away on its own in less than 36 hours but the itching and redness lasts longer.

Re: Your son.

You just need to practice common good hygiene. Wash your hands each and every time you use the bathroom. If you happen to scratch your genitals for any reason be sure to wash your hands. Make sure to place your soiled panties in the hamper where your son won't be getting to them. If you use a washcloth to clean your genitals make sure to use it only once and launder it. This virus cannot live very long outside the body or in a dry place. Clorox works well to kill it on surfaces.

You can use hand sanitizers like Purell if you like to keep your hands sanitized. Not a bad idea when diapering baby anyways.

You will want to be aware that performing oral sex on your husband can cause you to contract hsv orally and if you get a coldsore you do not want to kiss your son when they are active or if you experience tingling sensations on your lips which may indicate a coldsore is coming on. We'll cross our fingers that you never have to deal with this one.

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I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Hopefully you won't experience many active ob's.

I've had a discharge on two occasions that is herpes related. It is similar to a yeast infection in that it is itchy, the skin gets red and inflamed and it has an almost gritty consistency as if the discharge contains tiny fragments of my skin that appears to be peeling internally. It is creamy white. No bad odor or discoloration. It goes away on its own in less than 36 hours but the itching and redness lasts longer.

Re: Your son.

You just need to practice common good hygiene. Wash your hands each and every time you use the bathroom. If you happen to scratch your genitals for any reason be sure to wash your hands. Make sure to place your soiled panties in the hamper where your son won't be getting to them. If you use a washcloth to clean your genitals make sure to use it only once and launder it. This virus cannot live very long outside the body or in a dry place. Clorox works well to kill it on surfaces.

You can use hand sanitizers like Purell if you like to keep your hands sanitized. Not a bad idea when diapering baby anyways.

You will want to be aware that performing oral sex on your husband can cause you to contract hsv orally and if you get a coldsore you do not want to kiss your son when they are active or if you experience tingling sensations on your lips which may indicate a coldsore is coming on. We'll cross our fingers that you never have to deal with this one.

Thanks for the advice! Your discharge does sound similar to what I have been experiencing, yet with no sores. The irritation that I am experiencing is from my cyst so it makes is so confusing!

Its so funny you mention using Purell after diaper changes, because I have a HUGE bottle of it on his changing table that I use every day. I have been using it even before I thought Herpes was a problem. My son got extremely sick from daycare, and had double lung pneumonia....so using the Purell was a comfort for my husband and I when touching him, hoping not to have any bacteria on our skin and could make him get sick again. We also have a small bottle of it in every bathroom and we both wash our hands and use the Purell right after washing. I do plan on using cleaners like Lysol, and Clorox to make sure that everything stays clean (its so hard with a toddler..LOL).

I have come to accept that this is what we have, and my husband and I just have to deal with it the best possible way we know how. I cried for a good hour upon finding out the news, but when I really thought about the situation, and the fact I cant change anything, I came to my senses and realized it wasnt worth it.

I actually love this forum, and love the support and information that everyone provides. Just wanted to say a big thanks to everyone again :)

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