Jump to content

Don't know if this really a realtionship post


Recommended Posts

but here it goes. To make a long story short I was diagnosed 15 months ago via blood test with HSVII. Based on my pass and understanding of intial outbreaks I am 99% sure that I contracted this virus 10 years ago from an ex. Now while the ex and I have not dated in 10 years we have remained cordial and would speak on occasions (like once every 5-6 months) just to say hey how are? Well normally the typical response is I'm good everything is wonderful yada yada. Well since my diagnosis I no longer answer his calls. I would think that after a year he would have just taken the hint that I don't want to talk. But NOOOO now I guarantee that he will call at least once a month in hopes that I would answer. So here is my Problem. I soo want to just answer his call and say "look I'm not answering you calls because no longer is my life just peachy I now have herpes thanks to your cheating ways back in the day, So please stop calling me your calls are ruining my life even more." But here is the problem. Now while I'm not sure of the person he has become in the last ten years. The person of the pass would definitely be one of those people who would deny it, blab my business, or silently smirk and say I guess she wasn't all that afterall (I always got the feeling that he thought that I thought I was better then he since I grew up and tried to make something of my life.) We dated up until I was 19. So of course my life has changed dramatically. He has also gotten married so If he does fess up to it could also possibly affect his wife. What Shoudl I do? Should I just continue to ignore his calls or should I just confront him and hope that he has become a better man and will fess up to what's goign on? In additon to this there are to other men that I dated in the pass ten years that I could have possibly exposed the virus to that I still occasionally communicate with should I tell them?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

If your ex of 10 years ago is still calling he must be thinking of you and if he was the source of your infection he could be the cause of his wife having been infected too. It bugs me when someone is married and doesn't take that commitment seriously enough to let the past go.

I would just want him out of my life. I would refuse to acknowledge his existance. If you are determined to stop the calls you could call the wife and ask her if she knew he had hsv. It would accomplish the task of breaking his cycle of calls and expose him. But is this what you want to do? If he is as petty as you say then if she has it he probably told her it was her problem and not from him. But that is my theory based on your opinion of him.

You may want to tell the other two guys if you have a means to contact them. It may save heartache for others if they contracted it from you. There is also the chance that they didn't.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

how can you be positive he did in fact infect you, and not one of either other 2 men you have had relations with in the past 10 years, or even the possibility you had it BEFORE your ex? its just too hard to point the finger unless you know for certain. Also, theres a million different possibilities: 1: he does in fact have it and his wife knows and married him anyways 2: he does have it and she doesnt know 3: he doesnt have it at all and you might look insane and expose your condition for nothing 4: he might have it, think he gave it to you accidently and keep in touch with you all these years to see if you ever mention it and so far so good so he can have a clearer conscience......or he has it, is keeping in touch with you cause he assumes you must have it after being with him back then, and hopes you will be with him again cuz he assumes you and him both have it.........weird he keeps calling all these years and is married ya know? million possibilities....hard to say.

Link to comment
Share on other sites



the reason I am so sure it was him was because 2 days after having unprotected sex with him I began showing all of the signs of what I know now as an initial outbreak. Was young and dumb did not go to the doctors right away. When I finnally went it was diagnosed as a simple skin irritation. No blood test was done back then. Prior to this partner I had only had one other partner 2 years before in which I had no signs of infection nor did we ever have unprotected sex (I do realize that protected sex is not 100%).

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

  • Donate

    If Honeycomb has helped you, please help us by making a donation so we can provide you with even better features and services.

  • The Hive is Thriving!

    • Total Topics
    • Total Posts
  • Posts

    • tbc122
      https://imgur.com/a/cVi8yJY 2 weeks ago I had unprotected oral sex. Few days later I wake up with a stinging sensation in my urethra. I don't have any blisters, lesions or redness, my penis looks completely normal from the outside, but the stinging in my urethra is always there. Urinating doesn't make the pain worse. From the research I've done and how my body feels I'm pretty sure I caught genital hsv1. To make matters worse I think I transmitted it to my eyelid by touching my infected penis and then my eyelid which did develop a blister. Can anyone look at my lower eyelid and tell me if it looks anything like herpes?  I forgot to add that the blister is painless, but my eye is a bit watery. Other than that it's fine and my eyesight is good. Considering how this all developed in a matter of a week after I had unprotected sex it can't be much else than herpes..
    • SuperSnap
      Hey I see that they also sell the pill form in 100 mg and 500 mg form. Do you think this is as affective? They have the regular and extract version of the pill. Which would you think is the right one to get? And how many pills per day to get the same effect of say 16 seeds?
    • Ric12321
      it's actually because of bareback bj...
    • scurrred
      I had an IGG test  and the ranges were out of range and high  HSV 1 was 42 and HSV 2 was 19 so I guess it was accurate but the problem now is I can't figure out when or who I got it from. In 2018 to 2019 when I was with my ex I was STD tested but not sure if herpes was included but my ex was supposed to get tested but refused. I experienced some trauma with him and didn't date until a year and a half later so I'm confused. The guy I dated after the ex who didn't want to be tested I told them a week ago about my results he was trying to be there for me and understanding,I told him to get tested but to request a herpes blood test , because he had no noticeable lesions or bumps ever is what he said and I never noticed any on him now he has shut down all his social media and I can't reach him. Hoping he's okay, I feel bad because in 2018 I did have what I was told it was an abrasion that tingled but at my doctor the day I was tested they told me it wasn't herpes but I think it was only a visible diagnosis. I keep having it reoccur from time to time 
    • CHT
      Hello "FeelingLost".... your fears and concerns are understandable but, nothing you've described regarding the sexual encounter would cause you to contract herpes.... further, your symptoms are not herpes related.  Best of all, your doctor is correct, your results don't show any herpes here.  You can relax.... definitely have your GP take a look at things and see what might be causing the symptoms but, again, none of them are typical herpes related.  I wish you the best in terms of talking to your wife about this encounter.... hopefully she will understand and you both can work through this amicably.  We all make mistakes.... be careful not to beat yourself up too hard over this.... you can become so racked with guilt that you start imagining physical symptoms.  Best of luck.... and take care..... come back to the site if you have questions.
  • Create New...

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.