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Don't know if this really a realtionship post but here it goes. To make a long story short I was diagnosed 15 months ago via blood test with HSVII. Based on my pass and understanding of intial outbreaks I am 99% sure that I contracted this virus 10 years ago from an ex. Now while the ex and I have not dated in 10 years we have remained cordial and would speak on occasions (like once every 5-6 months) just to say hey how are? Well normally the typical response is I'm good everything is wonderful yada yada. Well since my diagnosis I no longer answer his calls. I would think that after a year he would have just taken the hint that I don't want to talk. But NOOOO now I guarantee that he will call at least once a month in hopes that I will answer. So here is my Problem. I soo want to just answer his call and say "look I'm not answering you calls because no longer is my life just peachy I have herpes thanks to your cheating ways back in the day, So please stop calling me your calls are ruining my life even more." But here is the problem. Now while I'm not sure of the person he has become in the last ten years. The person of the pass would definitely be one of those people who would deny it, blab my business, or silently smirk and say I guess she wasn't all that afterall (I always got the feeling that he thought that I thought I was better than he since I grew up and tried to make something of my life.) We dated up until I was 19. So of course my life has changed dramatically. He has also gotten married so this could also possibly affect his wife. What Should I do? Should I just continue to ignore his calls or should I just confront him and hope that he has become a better man and will fess up to what's goign on? In additon to this there are to other men that I dated in the pass ten years that I could have possibly exposed the virus to that I still occasionally communicate with should I tell them? They both have also moved on with their lives and I would hate to put a damper on their persoanl lives but my concscience occasionally gets the best of me when I'm having a convo with them and not being completely honest.

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Time ta cut the cord.

Is he aware he has herpes? and if he is would it change anything? If it were me,I'd take the next call and tell him to discontinue contacting you.

If he asked why....you don't need a reason.No dramaintics no emotinal out breaks,just don't call me any more "I moving on" is all he needs to know.

If need be you may havta change your number if he dosen't abide by your requists.Good luck.

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I don't know if he is aware he has it or not. He has never said anything to me. We are not cordial enough to have any type of deep conversations. If he is aware that he has it. Maybe he thinks I don't since I've never mentioned. Like I stated in my previous post we have not been together in 10 years.

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