It's all new!:(

[Leoness]

Hi,

I got a new herpes.....today it is worse then yesterday,is sore and annoying and it is not my fault. This hurts...a lot! It is a present from my husband who cheated on me two years ago...since then, forget about harmony in my marriage.

What can I do to get better? It seems to me that this OB is worse when I am depressed.Pls, help.

[Susan101]

Leoness....I am so sorry for you as to how you contracted this. Does your hubby have symptoms or has he ever had an ob? I don't think it is beneficial to look at this, however, as blaming anyone or it being anyone's fault. Unfortunately, doing so doesn't change anything, and only keeps you in bondage to unforgiveness towards your hubby.

This is a virus that happens to attack the genitals or mouth. Just like a cold virus affects the respiratory system. No, you haven't done anything to deserve this virus, but neither did the rest of us! Having sex does not make any of us "bad" just because we got exposed to this microscopic enemy in the process. Your hubby was wrong to cheat on you (and subsequently expose you to this), but the virus took over from there. Have you and your hubby gone to counseling for the infidelity or did you just find out? Your marriage does NOT have to be over, but you both need to be committed to healing past this.

Read the posts under Treatment in this site....you will find very valuable info about what supplements/vitamins are proven to be very effective in keeping this virus under control. Try not to stress....only takes it longer to heal, as with any illness. I've been practicing deep breathing when I start feeling anxious.....seems to help! If your depression doesn't start to resolve soon, you might consider a short round of antidepressants.

Honey, I really am sorry you were cheated on.....I was too by my ex when I was pregnant with his kid. I am not trying to diminish that pain, but you've got several different issues going on, and it would be most prudent to separate them when trying to sort through them.

1) Your husband cheated on you.....get counseling for that. 2) You have an incurable, but maintainable disease.....educate yourself as much as you can about the disease and treatment available. 3) You seem tohave misguided feelings of shame regarding this disease(totally normal when first diagnosed)....it's a virus, nothing more. It sucks, but is NOT the end of the world.

I wish you luck....you can post to me privately if you have any further questions or need some individualized support!

[Caliope]

There are a couple of things you can do to help relieve the pain and symptoms of an ob.

There are antiviral medications that your dr can prescribe as well as rx topical creams like Zovirax.

You can take otc pain relievers such as aspirin, tylenol and ibuprofen.

You want to keep the infected area clean and dry and avoid restrictive clothing that can rub and irritate the area. Depending on what you feel most comforable with you can consider getting some roomy cotton undergarments to wear or loose fitting lounge wear while stuff heals.

I personally advocate soaking in the tub with either epsom salts or the Aveeno Active Naturals bath powders for itchy skin. Another I've tried recently is the Domeboro astringent that you mix with water and make into a compress to help dry the sores so they can heal faster.

Here is a link with other helpful recommendations.

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/immune-system.htm