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I have had oral HV1 for about 25 years... get a cold sore maybe once a year.... it was my understanding that about 80% of the population has HV1 - and have never given it much thought - my doctor has never counseled me otherwise.

I just gave it to my boyfriend and he became very ill! He is furious with me and has not called me for days. He thinks that i was stupid and careless, even though i warned him we should not kiss. He has had oneone of the rare serious reactions to the exposure to the virus. I had NO IDEA that someone could become so sick with this and feel terrible - if i had known i would have insisted we not kiss. I cannot stop crying,.

"Mike" has had shingles, and his immune system is repressed right now as he is under alot of stress - this makes me wonder if his reaction would have been so serious if he was healthier. He won't go to the doctor for help. He won't use any OTC drugs even. I am dying inside that i have passed this on to a man i deeply love. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

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Caliope Platinum Support Member

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It sounds like you warned him and he didn't listen. Now he doesn't want to see a dr or get treatment.

It is the proverbial ostrich putting their head in the sand.

He has to take responsibility for his health you can't do it for him and blaming yourself and being upset won't change anything.

There are treatments that can help. He should go to the dr.

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i am sure when "mike" feels better, he will think more rationally and be calm. give him time to recoup, get him as much information as you can about the virus and urge him to see a doctor. good luck.

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Well I am sorry for Mike, but Mike was right you was not being very responsible. You told Mike not to kiss you, but did you tell him why. If you don't tell someone the reason for not doing something they will not understand and what you say means nothing. It's done now you and Mike have to deal with it.

Good Luck

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If you warned him, and he went ahead with it, then the "blame" is not on you. He has to take responsibility for his actions, including not going to a doctor.

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