Please help me feel non-rejected

[negan]

Well I just got my results today and confirmed that I have HSV2, I was hoping that if it was definite that it would be type 1.

I truely have no idea how I will cope if/when I have another out break. The guy I am sure I got it from had no idea he had it, had never had ANY tests accept HIV for immigration purposes a few months ago. I asked him to get tested the 1st week we were together and we both did (I have always had routine checks and been fine) all his results came back as ok (as Im in NZ we dont have blood tests routinely for HSV) so we had unprotected sex - - I then went away to see family for 3 weeks, came back and after having sex the first day I was with him, I felt sore, I had had this before so thought it was just from not having sex for 3 weeks. Within less than a week I couldnt walk, sit down or anything without extreme pain and huge swelling. Long story short the doctor was sure it was HSV and I got my result today that confirmed it is HSV2.

MY PROBLEMS - I have already had the toughest time finding the right partner as because Im vege/vegan no one ever understands my ethincal beliefs. NOW having to find someone who understands this is just depressing.

BTW - my bf and I broke up for variuos reasons and Im still in touch with my other ex before him who lives overseas. I told my other ex too as we are still friends. Im extremely scared that I will never meet anyone that understands EVERYTHING as it was already feeling impossible that there was someone out there for me that it would all work with :(

[bluefrog]

i think i can speak for all of us, newly diagnosed, single members here. i know that someday we will all have the person of our dreams......however, today, i feel that it is not likely. the emotional affects of this virus can be more painful the the physical at times. hang in there.....everything will work out......

[Christy C]

keep the faith and the hope

It took me ten years to find that man. Mr Perfect. Mr absolutely perfect. Ten years. There were days I could eat the walls. There were days I thought god i think I'll turn frigid at this rate. But there were days I was just too busy raising kids to notice. But oh those nights when I'd I given more love than I'd recieved in the day and I felt so keely the absence of mature love returned.... Lord the injustice!

And when it came, oh dear Lord when it came (and certainly I did several times) it blew me to bits. (I am not deliberately punning) Ripped me up and left me whimpoering like a child after an tantrum. To have found love after all this, holding on when there seems like there's no hope left. I think not even the guy finding an oasis in the middle of a dessert could begin to apprecaite the magnitude of this. Love after herpes. It exists. In fact my new love wrote me something special today, he wrote

Dear Mrs Right (no kidding)

.......so what I'm trying to say is that by just having faith in life's path, is that, let it take it's course, don't force it. My undying love for you and I am certain you for me will eventually lead us on the most beautiful journey of our lives.

Passionate and Eternal Love

Mr. Right

Chin up everyone. We'll all be promoted.

C

[smilenl]

Ling a ling - don't suppose you have a cloning machine for Mr. Right?

Negan - I feel for you. H is not tested for here either - no one has a clue if they have it or not unless like me you've a major (1st) outbreak that you end up at the doctors...so all this worrying about giving it to someone else could be "moot" as they might have it already (sorry my pet hate at the mo).

And as for Mr. Right & vegan lifestyle...it's the exact same for a lot of us but just with different boxes to tick. I'm just pissed that we now has one more box that has to be ticked even though we didn't put it on out own list.

Big hug!

[negan]

Yes totally...

I am very angry about the fact that I have yet ANOTHER box that needs ticking in order for me to find 'the one' and I have tried so many times to date meat eaters and end up hurting people or they hurt me because we are just too different (this is what just happened with the guy that gave it to me!!!)

I get so angry, upset, emotional, then happy that at least I dont have a life threatening disease...but there we go again, it IS a virus, a life long one that will be with me the rest of my life, that I cannot stand. I am so f**king obseesive with health and was a virgin til I was 22 years old. only been having stupid sex for 3 years and now I have this the rest of my life - UNLESS we can band together and find a cure - prove all the medical world wrong!!! PLEASE!!!

As I am vegan I was devastated to read some of those foods we can and cannot have, I already have my own list of food cans and cannots, dont want more to add to the list.

QUESTION for the women - how can you plan to get pregnant if you keep having OB's when you are fertile and/or when you dont have OB's you have your period??? Just a question that went through my mind that started worrying me I want a family in the near future, so this is a concern

Thanks for replying to my thread

[Christy C]

So you're vegan, what a hoot! So am I. My kids aren't and neither is my man. I came to the pont where I accept that everyone has a innate sence of what is right for them and to put it bluntly one man's meat is another man's poison. We must all keep an open mind. I know if I force my boys into eating like me they won't thrive. And when I was pregnant and nursing (which I did for a total of five years) well I was a confirmed omnivore. And beef was definitely on the menu. The minute I stopped the last thing I wanted to eat was uhrrrrn you know what, (meat) GROSS. So our needs need to be respected and the inclinations of othes too. I didn't always feel that way though.

I know what you mean about the trigger foods. I was very lucky when I was using the elimation method (coined that term myself) to keep the out breaks at bay I was not vegan.

Here's an except from an article I wrote called Out break Free and Proud to be.

[ By some divine programming I get my hands on the book. Eat Well For Your Blood Type, by Peter J Adamo. Well just what I need. This diet full of fresh fruit and veges in abundance supported me throughout my pregnancy. I would love to say I didn’t have a outbreak then but I did. And it was after having some nems from a Chinese fast food joint. Could have been the oil which it was fried in, not aligned with my blood types and I had eight of them. I never repeated this and sailed through the rest of my pregnancy symptom free. As long as I stuck to the basic rule no glutin, no milk, no cheese I was fine. I learnt not to look at croissants. And bread? People eat bread? Well I didn’t unless you meant some lovely glutin free flat bread. ]

So I understand your quandary. Actually it became mine when I made the change to becoming vegan. From the same article.

[ Anyway it comes to the point that everything I eat can bring on an outbreak. Vege or not I am outbreaking and I wonder at my body. Not even the old Eat Right for you Blood Type seems to be doing the trick. I reach for the cayenne but not having done that in years I find myself lying on the floor in pain from too much too soon. True the outbreak clears up but really I am a bit too old to be torturing myself like this.

I start to research possible herpes cures again. Not too hopeful but then again who knows. I land on the site neveranoutbreak.com I get the book, get the DMSO and it seems to work. Funny enough. I didn’t quite believe it would. But the thing is I am having outbreaks. Regular ones. And I don’t want that. I don’t deal with them very well. It’s not that I feel unclean or anything it’s like waking up and finding a nasty pimple right in the middle of your forehead and having to go to work. Somethings just shouldn’t be there and I’d be damned if I was going to let this thing get the better of me.

Well neveranoutbreak wasn’t just about DMSO and there was a lot of other things I’d prefer to be doing with this natural transporter of things into the bloodstream than wasting it on herpes blisters. And besides I had found a oxygen preparation which to me felt far superior than their BOL. Aerobic oxygen. I did a deep cleanse on that, peed my guts out literally. Someone should have warned me how effective that stuff was at freeing the body of toxins. I leaked through my eyes, my nose my pee and at the end without having been on a diet I was quite a few kilos lighter.

This cleanse had a lot to do with ridding myself of outbreaks. Not that the herpes criminals came pout with all the other stuff but I just cleaning house. Ridding my body of the acid overload. Which brings me back to the theory, (tried and tested) of eliminating herpes outbreaks forever by maintaining the right acid alkaline balance. It’s simple… pathogens love an acid environment. That’s where they breed and multiply. The herpes virus can not survive or proliferate in an alkaline environment. From the book Never an Outbreak [An acidic body provides a biological terrain conducive for disease to proliferate…. Maintaining proper alkaline levels is essential for overall good health as well as preventing all herpes outbreaks.] Well if I understood right this is not only a fight against herpes it’s a fight for my health. For longevity . Well well, never did I ever think that herpes would bring me the cure. The fountain of youth. Herpes give me the key to keeping my kids healthy and their immune system strong. Talk about a cloud with a really big silver lining. I was definitely unto something. I launched full attack. This was one war which was well worth fighting. ]

To read the full article go to www.authorsden.com/christycharles

Well on to your questions about getting pregnant. The first thing I would do is to master your outbreaks. STOP THEM. Naturally. (I know some people opt for the suppressive therapy but I wouldn't not where my unborn child is concerned - one just never knows what new finding are going to come out later. Like with vaccines.) Then have all the sex you want in the world. Get pregnant and have a baby and breast feed him.

Another article for you is Herpes Homebirth also on the same site.

Hope this helps

Christy