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Hey everyone, glad I found this forum. Here is my story and please help.....

27yr Old male, about a month ago I received oral sex from from a random girl that I never met before that night, I guess we were both pretty drunk. The next day I woke up and my testicles were a little sore and well they have been sore for about a month on and off, just about 2/3 weeks ago I started to get a strange tingle, numb feeling in the tip of my penis not painful just annoying. I have it every day and when I lay down or sit its worse then if Im up and about. Since I started this feeling I constantly check myself everyday like a 100 times looking for marks, blisters anything yet nothing comes up, the other day I notice something strange but not sure, a few little redish spots around the head and what i think are white spots 2 or 3 really small in another area on the head. I read online everyday about this and when I read a symptom, I have it. I also have what I think is jock itch. Doctors appt is monday...

Is my life over? Will I every have sex again? Can I shake hands with people? Kiss people hello? Share a drink or a cigarette? Im grossed out and disgusted with myself, cant sleep, eat or anything. I just want to cry........ Please write back... (i know post like these are here everyday and Im sorry for taking up your time) Thank you so much!:-(

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Don't be sorry! EVERYBODY freaks out at first and usually at several other points along the way. Try to stay calm and go see your doctor. It sounds like it could be herpes but it may not be. Your doctor should be able to shed some light on that question.

If it turns out to be herpes, read a lot of the threads on this site. They are great and very helpful. And feel free to vent. We all know how hard this is to talk about to people in person.

If it turns out to not be herpes let this experience be a lesson and always practice safe sex - even for oral.

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Dont Freak

Calm down, don't freak until there is semeething to be worried about. If it is nothing then you have just raised your stress level for nothing.If is herpes your life is not over. Educate and read. did you know tha 1 in 5 men have it and 1 in 4 women? YOU just have never had to think of the numbers before Just be sure that if it is, you tell you partner you would be surprised who says oh yea well me too. If is not herpes always always ask if your partner has ever had stds or has been checked for herpes.It is a wake up call that the days of just casual one night stands are dangerous and scary. Better that than aids. At least it cant kill you. And if they get mad, walk away and consider yourself lucky. If they did and you did not ask then you would be all worrying and stuff all over again. Go to the docter and get tested ask for a culture to be done if there are stilllesions and if they are gone ask for a blood test and ask if you should come backin a few months to recheck should it come back negative. It is tuff and it is embarassing but not as embarrassing as to infect someone and they call you months later with accusations. sex is not over , just different.

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dont worry right now

if you do have it that stress can make it worse for you. I would suggest going to get blood test it takes about three days to determine and if it's possible try not to think about it until results come back(it;s hard) Stay off the net looking at symptoms and pictures they are the worse and there are so many things out there with similar symptoms to each other Even so if you are positive it is not the end of the world it feels like that at first then acceptance comes in and life goes on

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