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Hi. This is my first post. I was just diagnosed with HSV2 maybe six months ago, and I felt so alone until I jsut found this forum today. I feel so dirty and unclean and unwanted. I feel like fucking used goods and worthless and think that no woman would ever want me again, and goodbye to my sex life. I just turned 30, and I haven't that many partners!!! I've had 3 partners in my life and got fucking stuck with this!!! I was almost a virgin and this happened to me.

I just am curious... how many partners have people had before they caught this curse? Am I alone in being so unlucky? It would settle my mind to know that i'm not the only one in this world who this happened to.


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sorry but alot of people are virgins when they get this, and also get it with their first partner. SO, your luck- isnt that unlucky, how would you feel if you got it at number 1?

the number of people we all screwed is really irrelevant as to how we got it.

just cause some people have more sex, or no sex, doesnt mean they are unable to get the virus.

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You're not alone - lots of people have the EXACT same experience as you...

Some people get it from their 1st partner and others after 500+...some just after they've ended a long term relationship...some in a long term relationship.

WaxedWrong is right - it doesn't matter how many people you've screwed...

I've also only been diagnosed 6 months ago...and I'm still on a major learning curve. And in my short experience - some people don't see you as dirty and unclean and still want you (just doesn't mean it won't end for other reasons).

Good luck with getting your head around it.

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I got it while I was still a virgin


Dont feel bad, I got genital hsv-1 at the age of 21 when I was still a virgin. I had oral sex with 4 boyfriends who never showed any signs of a cold sore in the entire time we were together so it totally came out of left field. I was the girl waiting for the right guy to have sex with and everything and then this happens. Trust me, I felt HORRIBLE. Luckily my bf is great about it (could have gotten it from him but ill never know which one I got it from). Im the last person anyone would ever think has gh. My ob/gyn told me so many women go in there who have it... and that I prob have a lot of friends who have it too but I just dont know cause no one talks about it. Of course this makes it super hard to date anyone. The fear of being in the dating world again is horrible.. I dont want to deal with it. But if everyone just dropped the stigma and realized how common it is it would be so easy to date people. You're not alone in any of this.. just look at how many people are on this board!

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i'll say it. i had about 25 partners before finding out i had it. i am 22 y/o, had this for 8 months and am perfectly fine, i have come to terms with it and do not see this a terrible shameful thing.

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I got it from partner number 118.

I'm kidding (unfortunately ;)).

One partner, 18 partners, or 118 partners.

What's the difference?

You're buying into the myth that only promiscuous people get this, - and so probably deserve it (I may be wrong about that last bit).

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My 4th partner (2 of them long term relationships of 3-4 years each) I was 22 when diagnosed. I got it from my boyfriend, who had no clue he had it and not a sign or symptom the whole time we were together....randomly got a weird rash out of nowhere almost 3 years into the relationship and was just as in shock and blown away of the possibility of this as I was (of which we had sex almost daily all the time prior)..... am still with the same boyfriend who I got this from(he is one of the 2 long term relationships I mentioned)

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i feel the same way as you. but i know there is hope. its what i believe we have to go through. i told my a good friend that i am going to be a nun. i am looking for nun, not giving nun, and not having nun since i have been diagnosis with gh. but she told me that there is life after gh cuz she has gh for over 10 yrs and is happily married for over 15 yrs. and it really doesnt matter to me how many partners you have cuz u can get it from your first or you last. what matters is that you know and and you are recieving treatment taking suppression medication. i am going to purchase that book christy reccomended to you. cuz i know it could be worst. at least i can live with this. i can see my daughter graduate from elementary, middle,and high school and college. that is what was told to me by friends who also have herpes. i am too scared. so i am taking my time. i am not in a rush to get into another relationship. i am learning to relove myself. get stronge emotionaly and spritually. so you are not dirty. and you are never alone.:D

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I got it from partner #1. Feels terrible!!!!

And terribly unfair. Since then, it was difficult to come to turns with it. He left after a three year relationship.

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Lucky #13, who is also my husband. You don't have to sleep around to get this. We on this forum are only the tip of the iceberg. Sooo many people have hsv, I'm starting to wonder how anyone manages to avoid it.

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I'm starting to wonder how anyone manages to avoid it.

Me too!

Now when someone tells me about their sleeping around (I'm a hairdresser so I hear everything) I can't help but wonder....hmmm do they have it....yet?

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partner #5, which really doesn't seem all that excessive...

it strikes those of us who've had our share of fun and those of us who haven't even gotten started... it doesn't care if you're good or bad or nice or bitchy or sweet or evil...

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My tenth Partner gave it to me...

I think he intentionally did it so I would stay with him...

Im really afraid of commitement, and this is known about me, i dont stay in one place to long.. i think he thought if he gave it to me, his chances would be greater.. they werent. I Now wish he was dead.. but life goes on.

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