Where do i go from here?

[sickofworrying]

Last week i had a brief but unprotected encounter with a girl i didnt really know. I cheated on my girlfriend of 8 months who i love very deeply. I have not had it confirmed yet but all of the symptoms of genital herpes are there... the flu like symptoms, the lower back back, the sensitive red skin on the shaft of my penis. I have several questions, they say your first outbreak is your worst and i was wondering if i have a mild initial outbreak does that mean the following ones will be even less? My good friend got herpes about 4 years ago and he said that after the initial rash he never noticed any other symptoms without taking any medications. Also i was wondering if i should go ahead and by the dynaclear now because i remember reading that the stuff is very effective if it can be used on the initial outbreak.

I am bummed out that i contracted this virus but i am much more sad that i am going to have to lose the woman who i love so much. I though she was the one. My initial emotions are i have let everyone around me down and even worse i have let down myself.

So i guess it all comes back to the title of this post... Where do i go from here?

[MikeTwo]

Hmmm, this is a tough situation you have gotten yourself in, no doubt. First, once you inform her of what has happened, it might not mean the end. There are relationships that have recovered from worse. It all boils down to how much you both really love each other. If you both do love each other, the infidelity will be the hardest thing to overcome, not the virus.

I'm in love with someone with the virus and even though we weren't dating when she contracted the virus, I couldn't rationalize NOT loving her over this virus. The two just don't preclude the other. If I were to cheat one her or vice versa, that would be an obstacle to overcome. I could never stop loving her, but my disappointment would be huge. I'm willing to bet that this will be hardest part, so you might have to give it a lot of time and open, honest discussion between you two.

If I were her I wouldn't want to make a commitment and possibly contract this if I thought you would be gone later. I'm sure you know all this, but you will just have to face up to your mistake and let the chips fall where they may.

Best of luck!

Mike

[Christy C]

I can't help much about the emotional dilema save to ask you to ask yourself why you slept out. Really ask yourself that. It may be (and i'm playing devil's advocate here) that she is a swell person, absolutely brilliant person and any man would be out of their mind not to love her, but you don't in the dep honest total way one needs to be loved or felt loved. or you don't feel it coming from her in that way.

I can tell you where to go from here healthwise. You don't need to suffer with outbreaks or even dread the big one. It all depends on the state you keep your body. Read the articles Outbreak Free and Proud to Be and Stay Alkaline Stay Oubreak Free on my site. You'll find the URL below in my signature.

Do some deep honest thinking, you'll be pointed the way to go. And you'll know it's the right path. it's the one when neither your mind nor nor inner self are in conflict.

Christy

[always searching]

I'd definitely go to a doctor and get diagnosed before you go making any rash decisions. Have you considered the possiblity that it might not be H? I still think you need to be honest that you cheated but before you drop both bombs on her, make sure you are dropping the correct bombs.