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I was recently diagnosed with Herpes.

My partner does not have any signs, symptoms and his swab tests came back negative. I believe he gave it me, but he believes that he may not have. I just want to know if he has it or not.

Any suggestions?

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he needs a herpes type specific blood test to know for sure. Swabs are often very unreliable depending when thye are taken, what is actually on the skin at the time, and if the virus was active or not still when the swab was taken, or if enough active virus was present to show up. Many people get a false negative for this kind of test. Im also curious as to what they swabbed on him if you say he has no symptoms of anything.......what exactly did they swab then?

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That was going to be my question - they can't swab anything if there's nothing to swab!!!!

If he's not the first person you've had sex with, then you could have caught it off someone else.

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That was going to be my question - they can't swab anything if there's nothing to swab!!!!

If he's not the first person you've had sex with, then you could have caught it off someone else.

He is the first person that I have had sex with in 3 1/2 years. Prior to meeting him, I was in perfect health. Plus, his last girlfriend, who he had unprotected sex with, has Herpes. But that could just be a coincidence. Maybe I should have clarified, swab, he had a STD screening, and it came back negative. They inserted something into his penis and sent it to labs for test. In addition to urine samples and blood, but the blood was only testing for syphilis. But I could have contracted it four years ago without it ever showing up and not know it until now.

Thanks for your response.

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based on you original symptoms, Id say that was your first outbreak definitely......now whether or not it might be able to lie dormant for years and then randomly react or whether or not you go it from him, Id lean more towards him giving it to you honestly. I just feel like that makes way more sense and the timing fits. He needs to get a blood test and I am positive he has it. His last g/f had it, he had unprotected sex with her, and he never bothered to get tested afterwards.....dont you find that odd? his lack of concern? i really believe he had it, perhaps didnt get visible symptoms ever, but spread it to you just the same. He really should have been more careful with his health. Im sorry you are going through this right now.

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