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Hello Ladies and Gents!,

I am new to the forum by virtue of this new speed bump in my life....I should really say 'our' life as it is me and my significant other that will be dealing with the issue.

My story...

My darling girlfriend has been potentially diagnosed with HSV-2. That was approximately a week ago. The weekend before that we had protected sex...there may have been a point however in the midst of things that there was unprotected contact between us.

We are not playing the blame game here...it most likely came from me but I have never showed signs ever. I truly did not know and have never showed any signs. My ex-girlfriend cheated on me...but I was never able to figure out to what extent. It is quite apparent right now, and I'm a fool to have had relations with her after it. Serves me right.

Nevertheless I have spent the last week or so reading and educating myself as much as possible. I promised current girlfriend that I would stand by her...and believe that we can get through this together. Fortunately for me she is pure soul and understands.

She has lesions that have turned into open sores as of 3 days ago...and is currently on anti-virals to help get through them. Should we get confirmation that it IS in-fact HSV-2, I plan on using this forum and its unbelievable wealth of knowledge and support to help her deal with this.

I may have it too....and just posted in the unsure section in regards to the symptoms i show.

Emotionally....she was quite struck when first diagnosed and turned cold towards me. Being the brave little thing that she is....she simply gave me the cold treatment and didnt really say anything. Despite my probing to get her to open up to me, believe me and not resent me (she refused to kiss me =( ) ....it was all lost up until a few hours before she left on her trip to the eastern half of the world.

Wallowing in tears, shame, fear and guilt, I called her before she left....only to find her perky as ever...and basically emptied my heart out... "i am so incredibly sorry; i tried so hard to be perfect for you..." .....to which she attested that everything was fine, and we will get through it. This kind of stuff happens all the time (her friends have dealt with it) and is a lot more common that we think. She put a smile on my face before hanging up and taking off the next morning.

She'll be back at the end of this month...and I can't wait to see her and get on with our lives. I've promised her that I will stand by her, whether I am H+ myself or not....and see to it that we get through this.

Never give up :)

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