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Hello people welcome im a male of 23 years of age and i've just found out that i have herpes.. i know i know, first thing it comes throught your mind is how could this happend, why me, this is not right, but yet its all right and its the reality. However the big questions are what about my future can i live a normal life, am i be able to have children... well so many questions. :confused:

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yeah for sure - your life aint over by any means..

yes you now have herpes - but in all honesty other then no more casual sex your life wont change..

i had a few GFs all i told about my little monsters, all still wanted to see me.

nothing in your life has to change - other then telling potential partners about your STD.

yes you can still have children, lead a full normal life and enjoy iy to the full.....

their will be bad times ahead - but how you handle these will make you a stronger person

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Thanks for the post, gutted. I was just diagnosed myself and going through the same questions and concerns as cvalero7. I wonder why a girl would even take the chance to be with me. It seems like there's a heck of a lot of competition out there as we're expected to pursue the women...I'm glad you shared your experience that this doesn't take us out of the game, it just changes the rules a little bit.

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yeah for sure - your life aint over by any means..

yes you now have herpes - but in all honesty other then no more casual sex your life wont change..

i had a few GFs all i told about my little monsters, all still wanted to see me.

nothing in your life has to change - other then telling potential partners about your STD.

yes you can still have children, lead a full normal life and enjoy iy to the full.....

their will be bad times ahead - but how you handle these will make you a stronger person

My girlfriend told me she had herpes on our 3rd date after me being kinda frisky and showing I really liked her. It didn't bother me and now months later we are planning on not even using a condom when we have sex so. I mean its a rather harmless virus cept that its so easily spread. If someone really cares for you they will overlook it. A sexual drawback in a relationship is a minor one and with commitment its nothing at all.

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