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I am new too the board, been reading a bit and realize there is a lot I do not know. I went in too a clinic Thursday and got the results back today. I don't know what kind of test they did or what the numbers were. Positive for both 1 and 2. The reason I went in was three small red bumps in the inner labia. I have had small liquid filled bumps before but passed it off as a sweet bump or reaction too pool water. I'm thinking maybe three ob's over the last 11-12 years. I have been married for 10 years and told my hubby the other day that I was going too get tested. I was so scared and crying, he just passed it off like no big deal. He tried too convene me it was not h. I think just trying too calm me down. I was so upset because I was worried he would think I cheated on him and then brought him home this lovely gift. After I got the results it kind of hit me that he was a bit too calm about it and paranoia set in. Now all I can think is that he cheated on me. I really don't think he did or ever would but I can't get it out of my head. We have two children together, so I am facing the thought of either I birthed them while I had this and need too get them tested or my husband is a cheater. Either option is heart breaking. He is away for the weekend so I'm just sitting here alone, crying trying too think of how too tell him without accusing him.

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Acesheart

Hey trying welcome honey. I had my daughter after my ghsv and there is no need to test those babies. This does Not mean your husband cheated nor does it mean you cheated. If either of you have ever had a previous sexual partner you could have gotten it then but just stayed asymptomatic. That just means you had herpes just no real signs or horrible outbreaks. If your husband gets cold sores or fever blisters, that is h1, which can be spread to the genital location by means of oral sex. If you had these sores about 10 yrs ago and didn't have a lot of pain, you could have h type 1 ( oral herpes transferred to genitals by receiving oral sex). Has your husband thought of testing? He most probably is your giver. My husband of 25 yrs is still negative for herpes and he doesn't care if he gets it. He only tested for me to relieve my worry about him getting or having it. He was quite disappointed when his test came back negative, he assumed after all these years he surely would have gotten it. We joke my herpes loves my body better cause I'm cuter then him, lol. Please don't worry about who had what or the babies. Your protective antibodies kept your babies protected from getting your herpes. Im here along with many other wonderful supporters if you want to ask or talk about herps. Take care honey Truly, Hugs Aces xo

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I am new too the board, been reading a bit and realize there is a lot I do not know. I went in too a clinic Thursday and got the results back today. I don't know what kind of test they did or what the numbers were. Positive for both 1 and 2. The reason I went in was three small red bumps in the inner labia. I have had small liquid filled bumps before but passed it off as a sweet bump or reaction too pool water. I'm thinking maybe three ob's over the last 11-12 years. I have been married for 10 years and told my hubby the other day that I was going too get tested. I was so scared and crying, he just passed it off like no big deal. He tried too convene me it was not h. I think just trying too calm me down. I was so upset because I was worried he would think I cheated on him and then brought him home this lovely gift. After I got the results it kind of hit me that he was a bit too calm about it and paranoia set in. Now all I can think is that he cheated on me. I really don't think he did or ever would but I can't get it out of my head. We have two children together, so I am facing the thought of either I birthed them while I had this and need too get them tested or my husband is a cheater. Either option is heart breaking. He is away for the weekend so I'm just sitting here alone, crying trying too think of how too tell him without accusing him.

If you think he cheated on you.. Maybe have him tested** but u can't accuse him unless u saw a credit cards statement with hotel or pack of condoms on bills its possible..but either way I wouldn't play the accuse game ..u got a family ..its not easy to just walk away. ..

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november13

It sounds like you've had it for a while, but your symptoms are so mild you never had to go to the dr for it. You could've had it before you started seeing your husband. Or, like others said, he may have had it and not known since he's asymptomatic. Either way, it doesn't change anything, and it certainly doesn't mean either of you cheated. Just have him get tested to see if he has it and if he doesn't have it you can talk about whether or not you want to use protection.

The great news is it sounds like you have very mild symptoms so this shouldn't really affect your life in any way.

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trying-2-deal

My husband had a test done the same day just at a different office so it's taking longer. Thanks for the help everyone. I'm feeling calmer just from a few hours on this site. Lots of great info and support.

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scareface547

Be careful around your children.. My little boy was misfortunate and it breaks my heart..

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