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januarykid

is it necessary to disclose ghsv1 status to partner for hand stimulation?

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januarykid

I am starting to get physical with a new partner. If he stimulates me with his hand (fingers me) and he then touches his own genitals immediately afterwards without washing his hands, is there a potential for contracting hsv? How intimate can one get without intercourse or oral sex before it is absolutely critical to disclose? Just wanting to know everyone's thoughts around this. The relationship is very new and I havent had to tell a partner yet.

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Ihaveittoo1975

My suggestion is to tell him before ANY kind of sexual activity. The chances of him getting infected under the conditions you describe are probably quite slim, but this is more of an issue of trust should your relationship develop further. If you are not ready to disclose I suggest you refrain from any sort of sexual activites until the cat is out of the box. If the guy has any sense he will appreciate you for your honesty, instead of feeling deceived if you withhold it from him for too long.

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Acesheart

I totally agree with user ihaveittoo! I disclosed before I ever dated my now husband, it gives them the choices we were Never given

Even though what you described is highly unlikely to transmit your herpes, he (if it did transmit) cannot later come back at you saying "you lied, your dishonest and your NOT trustworthy" . Who would want to continue a relationship with such a partner who was so deceitful?

When in doubt, spell it out and be honest. No need to make it a Major event, but speak the truth. Take care Aces xo

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januarykid

Thank you. Maybe i will try to slow the sexual activity down to buy time and assess if it's a relationship i truly want to be in.

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Acesheart
Thank you. Maybe i will try to slow the sexual activity down to buy time and assess if it's a relationship i truly want to be in.

Honey my husband's ONLY foreplay for 2yrs, before we became official was hugs, cuddling, touches (but NOT down south) movies, laughter , corney jokes and me whooping his Ass at pool (we both played leagues) and the absolutely BEST, waking up in my/his arms after all night talking sleepovers because I worked til 2am some days. Breakfast , so he could satisfy his need to make sure I was eating. A little goes a long way. It showed me his heart's intentions, THAT is the most Sensual action a man make. Exposing his heart. Hugs Aces xo

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