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Hey guys, so I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for the past two months. We have been dating for two years and I have always been faithful to him but I'm afraid he's not going to believe it. I had never had symptoms of hsv2 that I've been aware of but I recently went to get a full STD test done for the first time in my life (I'm 19) and through a blood test, I found out I have hsv2. I've been freaking out keeping this from him but I'm going to see him this weekend so I know it's time to tell. I'm honestly not sure if I got it from him or if it was from another guy before him. I was a bit promiscuous before him but I just don't see how I could have contracted it that long ago and not had any symptoms. Is this normal of HSV2? How in the world am I supposed to tell him and assure him that I didn't cheat on him?

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JBnATL

There is no normal with hsv2. You could have gotten it from anyone you have been intimate with including your current bf. The good news is that if you haven't had an outbreak you probably never will.

Did your test have a number associated with it? Here is a link to an article that talks about uncertainty of IgG blood tests that you might want to read:

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/IGG-Test-Result-Confusion/show/593272

You might want to suggest that you both get tested for all STDs. He might have it an not know it and either of you could have something far worse than hsv that you should need to know about.

Good luck!

JB

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Hey guys, so I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for the past two months. We have been dating for two years and I have always been faithful to him but I'm afraid he's not going to believe it. I had never had symptoms of hsv2 that I've been aware of but I recently went to get a full STD test done for the first time in my life (I'm 19) and through a blood test, I found out I have hsv2. I've been freaking out keeping this from him but I'm going to see him this weekend so I know it's time to tell. I'm honestly not sure if I got it from him or if it was from another guy before him. I was a bit promiscuous before him but I just don't see how I could have contracted it that long ago and not had any symptoms. Is this normal of HSV2? How in the world am I supposed to tell him and assure him that I didn't cheat on him?

Hey gal welcome sweety :) ! I have GHSV 2, I stayed dormant with my h for 23 yrs, no outbreaks, and I'm married to a non h man. When you tell him simply explain you went for a female exam, they ran blood work, and you tested positive for herpes. Ask him if he has ever been properly tested, most don't know they already have herpes in one form or another. Say it with head held high, with confidence and if you two are seriously in this relationship, ask him to get tested too. He could very well be your giver. Do you have the paper hard copies of these test with the numerical values?

If he has ever had Any sexy times or oral with Any previous partner, he could have gotten long ago too. There is a awesome post in the Dating Section of this forum by JBnAtl, find it sweety and read, it will help you disclose. It very possible to have it for decades and NEVER know it unless you properly test. May I ask why you decided to test? Many I speak with have female region issues or they are dating new guy/gal or they go to new doctor who wants a complete health check bases for this new visit.

I have my herpes for nearly 28 yrs, I'm married almost 25 and we have daughter two yrs older then you. It most probably is all this excitement and anxiety about seeing him that could be the cause of this outbreak.

Try to stay calm and remember, it's important in How you tell him as it is What you tell him. JB has it all in his advice (THAT thread) post, check it out.

Once again welcome sweety and if you have any questions please feel free to ask. We discuss every aspect of herpes, tips for, and how to cope.

Big Hugs, Aces xo

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