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I'm hoping someone can help me because I'm getting pretty anxious here! I have herpes2 and am going through my second outbreak.

I had sex with my boyfriend on Saturday morning and was feeling some pain afterwards (kind of like razor burn). Then I broke out in a patch of blisters on Sunday afternoon. Of course, I am terrified that I passed this on to him (he knows that I have it btw).

I would love to here from anyone about their experience talking to their partners about this kind of thing. Should I tell him that I have an outbreak and warn him to keep an eye out?

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Hey LemonSunshine, welcome to the site. I think you should tell him in a "by the way" manner and just state the facts calmly. You probably did not pass it, but it's more about being honest and communicating in the relationship. I am sure he would appreciate it and it will probably make you feel better too.(:

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Hey LemonSunshine, May I ask had you recently shaved or removed hair from that area, anything that frictions would cause irritation?

I am asking because if you recently lady scaped that area, it could just be irritation like we ladies can get from having sexy times too soon after having done so.

I have had that same scare with my husband after having sexy times, I'd get tingling or anxious and think I may have passed my h. But he would say "stop worry and if it happens to make a sore, I'll get it looked at" sure as anything, nothing ever passed, but my ANXIETY about passing it, well that remained for many years. I agree with SheisBlue, just say hey I'm feeling bumps in the vag area, if you have anything occur let's go to doctor's together so we can be sure it did not transfer to you.

In my over two decades, many anxiety scares,but the husband always stayed calm and NEVER worried like I did. They care about us and that is all that matters no matter what we share, they know and this should really give you comfort. Try not to worry and just wait and see. This will strange question, but do have access to his man area? Again strange, but I can remember checking out my husband package while he slept, I think he knew but just enjoyed the touches and never made me feel like "oh oh he caught me in the act" he knew I was just as anxious as I was the first time we made love and prolly always would be. But he did enjoy it :) . Hugs Aces xo

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I got an outbreak from shaving too at first I couldn't figure out if that was possible but after reading this post, before that I haven't had an outbreak in over a year , note to self shaving causes outbreaks

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