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What has ppl's experiences been with partners who say they accept the H?. Do you all use condoms, antiretrovirals, ? Or nothing? Please share.

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Acesheart
What has ppl's experiences been with partners who say they accept the H?. Do you all use condoms, antiretrovirals, ? Or nothing? Please share.

Hi sassy, LOVE this screen name . Lol, When husband and I had our first sexy times he would use condoms ( NOT every time) for my peace of mind. After we marry we both wanted lots of babies, so no we don't use protection for oral or sexy times. He accepted my herpes I believe way before I did. Hope this help. Hugs Aces xo

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sf19xx

My wife has GHSV2 and is negative for HSV1. I am negative for both. We had unprotected intercourse for 15 years before we found out she had it in late September 2014. When we have intercourse again it will be with condoms and suppressive therapy, but we are still working up to that. Hopefully it's a "when" and not and "if" because we really love each other. I cannot imagine going unprotected under any circumstance, but maybe that's just me. While it's odd that I am not already infected, there is no guarantee that if I were, my symptoms would be as minor as hers have been (she never even knew she had it until recently).

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My wife has GHSV2 and is negative for HSV1. I am negative for both. We had unprotected intercourse for 15 years before we found out she had it in late September 2014. When we have intercourse again it will be with condoms and suppressive therapy, but we are still working up to that. Hopefully it's a "when" and not and "if" because we really love each other. I cannot imagine going unprotected under any circumstance, but maybe that's just me. While it's odd that I am not already infected, there is no guarantee that if I were, my symptoms would be as minor as hers have been (she never even knew she had it until recently).

If she has NOT transferred to you by now, 15yrs, I doubt if it did pass to you that you would have bad outbreaks. It is harder for female to pass the herpes virus and after the first two years it is less contagious. Why would sexy times with your wife be an "if" , were you two having troubles before this new herpes outbreak? May I ask why did she originally get tested?

Back 25 yrs ago when I got married, we took BLOOD test before we could get our license to marry, didn't you two take BLOOD test before marrying?

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Acesheart
Sf19xx you make me sad

Hi Asics, welcome to the family. Hugs Aces xo

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sf19xx

Argh, I make me sad. This thing has really been devastating to us. It has shaken me to the core of what's most important to me.

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WilsoInAus

Are you able to ask yourself why?

Neither of you are intending to be with other partners?

There is emerging thought that people become progressively immune with low dose exposure.

Even then you went 15 years without infection, you may go 30 more now that you do know and can avoid sex during possible outbreaks and shedding.

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Acesheart
Argh, I make me sad. This thing has really been devastating to us. It has shaken me to the core of what's most important to me.

Maybe you need counseling? To think that your spouse of this many years makes you feel like this, if i were her you would never be allowed near me again.

How do you think your reactions make her feel?

Dont say she doesnt know because as a wife and a woman, bet ur ass she knows.

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