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burningglacier

Oral Transmission?

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burningglacier

A bit of a background, I was diagnosed about 7 years ago, and my outbreaks are so rare, maybe 1 or 2 a year and so "soft" that I barely even notice it.

I'm trying to get over the "fear" of having to disclose it before intimacy and have essentially focused on my career instead of going out and having fun. So starting to date back up again (I'm Gay), and had my "interest" (2nd date) come over to watch tv. I accidentally fell asleep and I end up waking up in the morning to me receiving oral sex. Not sure how long he was at it (since I was asleep) but I obviously freaked out and told him to stop and pulled his head off it. He then went to try to kiss me where I used the "I have bad breathe, uh no".

Now it's been 2 days and he hasn't brought it up that he "caught" anything, but I'm obviously concerned. I wasn't having an OB BUT I rarely realize when I do anyways which is a concern too. Mainly my concern is when I get "the call". At the same time, I wasn't expecting to be woken up in that situation either. I know when I caught it, it was within an hour my system went into shutdown/OB mode.

Do I, or HE for that matter, be concerned he might have?

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VVK

Unless you were having an outbreak at the time, odds are that there isn't anything to be concerned about. However, more information would be helpful.

How were you diagnosed? Was it a diagnosis of HSV-1 or HSV-2?

Do you know your "interest"'s status? Has he ever had cold sores?

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A bit of a background, I was diagnosed about 7 years ago, and my outbreaks are so rare, maybe 1 or 2 a year and so "soft" that I barely even notice it.

I'm trying to get over the "fear" of having to disclose it before intimacy and have essentially focused on my career instead of going out and having fun. So starting to date back up again (I'm Gay), and had my "interest" (2nd date) come over to watch tv. I accidentally fell asleep and I end up waking up in the morning to me receiving oral sex. Not sure how long he was at it (since I was asleep) but I obviously freaked out and told him to stop and pulled his head off it. He then went to try to kiss me where I used the "I have bad breathe, uh no".

Now it's been 2 days and he hasn't brought it up that he "caught" anything, but I'm obviously concerned. I wasn't having an OB BUT I rarely realize when I do anyways which is a concern too. Mainly my concern is when I get "the call". At the same time, I wasn't expecting to be woken up in that situation either. I know when I caught it, it was within an hour my system went into shutdown/OB mode.

Do I, or HE for that matter, be concerned he might have?

Hey burningglacier, welcome honey. Well first off if this genital h type is 1 or 2 it is unlikely he got it that quickly and more likely he already has some form of herpes. Secondly honey it takes the body 2 to 22 days for the body to seroconvert into antibodies.

If he chose to give you oral pleasures it really isn't your responsibility. Did he ask "do you have a yeast or bacterial or viral issue down south"? He took it upon himself to do what many partners do when you first wake up look over and realize how dreamy that person looks. My husband does it all the time, I have Ghsv2 /28yrs now and I've never passed my herpes. Try NOT to stress this, chances are greater he already has herpes since 80% of the population does.

I agree with VVK, more information on your TEST and type would help. But I certainly wouldn't worry over the actions he felt comfortable enough to make without asking about sexual health status. Take care Hugs Aces xo

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blue84

How do u sleep with a hard on lol am sorry but I wouldn't be asleep if someone was given me a good blow..just telling him you got herpes and test him

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