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well, the emotional rollercoaster i know what your on about....

this morning seemed to be stress free - but looked up sympotns read some stuff at dinner time and bang here we go again the tears.

i am totally stressing over this!!!

i dont want sympothy or anyone to tell me it was my fault i know that. but its hard to see any future if my wife does not continue with me, i know i wont know untill i tell her which i have to do and will when i can, but thats it i cant see any future if she doesnt stand by me. imon my own and thats what hurts!!! this thing is a bastard, just like me !

i havnt drunk tonight to cover the pain so im doing good.... so far! but its definaley a good remedy !

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Well, all I have to say is that everyone makes mistakes. I use to judge people and I have to say I don't anymore and this has truly made me a better person. I had a one night stand during a business trip that changed the rest of not only my life but my husbands. I never cheated on him and for some reason my head was in my ass and I started to have sex with this guy I knew for over 3 years and stopped after a few minutes. An entire 3 minutes that will now effect the rest of my life. I was misdiagnosed for a few months before finding out then I had to tell my husband. It was hard, very hard and devastaitng for the both of us but you know what? He is standing by me and still holds me at night. He is still angry and will never forget but as each day goes by it does get better and I NEVER thought it would. Hang in there and tell her. It's the best thing you can do right now. Get it off yor chest. It's a horrible thing to keep eating at you day after day. It literally made me physically sick - please email me if you want to chat more :)) Brooke

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Wow this is crazy:o.All of our stories are alike.We all got this crap from "cheating". I got my little gift last year,trip this, on my birthday.:mad: I know exactly how you feel.It is going to be excruciating until you tell your wife.I was a wreck before I told my man.I would cry all the time, could'nt eat or sleep.I was pitiful.I knew once I broke down and told him we were through,but we are still together and will be getting married shortly.:p:D

You will feel so much better once you get this off your chest. After I told my man it felt like a 200 lb weight had been lifted off my chest. Good luck and hang in there.

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i got mine from actually helping someone cheat... which its always been my rule to never cheat never help cheat... which blows.. really badly lol.. because i was drinking and it just.. happened and i felt horrible the next day..

and then even more horrible later on...

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Wow this is crazy.All of our stories are alike.We all got this crap from "cheating". I got my little gift last year,trip this, on my birthday.:mad: I know exactly how you feel.It is going to be excruciating until you tell your wife.I was a wreck before I told my man.I would cry all the time, could'nt eat or sleep.I was pitiful.I knew once I broke down and told him we were through,but we are still together and will be getting married shortly.

You will feel so much better once you get this off your chest. After I told my man it felt like a 200 lb weight had been lifted off my chest. Good luck and hang in there.

Hey kurious, I plan on having my little oral and intercourse sex with my gf on my birthday so wish me luck! and I do it all for love for her:)

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starphyse.

not to sound gay, but you are one of those guys that every women wishes to meet. thanks for your support you may not know how much you help but trust me, your just about keeping me togethor at the minute!

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starphyse.

not to sound gay, but you are one of those guys that every women wishes to meet. thanks for your support you may not know how much you help but trust me, your just about keeping me togethor at the minute!

Well thanks yeah I just had to call my doctor myself I noticed small white bumbs on my hand prolly nothing though. If it is a hsv virus its prolly something I have had for a very long time cause I kinda remember getting those type of bumbs in the past. Wow just found another one on side of finger. Like I said if its hsv its something I prolly carryed whitlow outbreaks are usually very painful initally rofl then again some people get no symptoms too.

Very fun and yeah im glad I make you feel better everyone else in the forums is here to help too. "hugs"

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Hey kurious, I plan on having my little oral and intercourse sex with my gf on my birthday so wish me luck! and I do it all for love for her:)

Good luck.Hopefully you wont get a unwanted birthday gift like I got.I said it before and I'll say it again:Your gf is LUCKY to have a man like you by her side.

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Good luck.Hopefully you wont get a unwanted birthday gift like I got.I said it before and I'll say it again:Your gf is LUCKY to have a man like you by her side.

If I do get a unwanted birthday I will talk to you between screaming while I pee and trying to dry my blisters. Hopefully they are only in one place if I do it get.

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I'm on the other side of the coin. I was cheated on and when I found out I insisted that we both get tested for everything. I knew I had HSV1 cuz I always got cold sores but I soon found out I had HSV2 as well. I'd never had a sore on my genitals before I was tested and for the next 4 months afterwards I got them every time I had my period. But I didn't dump him. I stayed with him, we've worked everything out and I'm glad I did. We live together now and I love him more than ever. He gave up all of his privacy to prove to me he'd never cheat again and even tho I get nervous sometimes I know he's been faithful.

You need to fess up and let her know...and deal with the consequences as they come. I found out on my own by looking in his email. It was horrible and it would've been much better if he'd told me himself. I think it would've been easier to get past the betrayal if he'd been honest. Don't assume that she'll walk out on you either. I always thought I'd never stay with a guy who cheated on me...but I did stay and I'm glad I did. You never know what'll happen. Give her the benefit of the doubt and be honest with her.

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I'm not worryed about herpes anymore not even getting it on my fingers, I'm far to in love with this girl to let things like that stand in our way. She deserves the best I can give her and thats what she will always get as long as we are together.

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I'm not worryed about herpes anymore not even getting it on my fingers, I'm far to in love with this girl to let things like that stand in our way. She deserves the best I can give her and thats what she will always get as long as we are together.

Your lady has definitely lucked out in being with you. I wish you both the best!

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I'm not worryed about herpes anymore not even getting it on my fingers, I'm far to in love with this girl to let things like that stand in our way. She deserves the best I can give her and thats what she will always get as long as we are together.

Once again I am soooooo JEALOUS of your girlfriend.:p:D

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I found out a few months ago that I have gh and I have dealt with the virus and the negative aspect of having it, you can't dwell on the negative, all you can do is go on and live your life day by day and make the most of it, just be cautious and use protection untill the pharmaceutical companies come up with a cure for this thing! It's a pain for all of us!!!!!! But all we can do is live our lives and go on with normal everyday living, just use protection if you are going to have sex so as not to infect anyone else.

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You know drinking does not help. It makes it worse. It makes us break out and being depressed it also make us have outbreaks. So try not to drink too much. Your wife will forgive you. Us females are the type to be upset with you but at the same time we always have love for our boyfriends and or husbands. She loves you.

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