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I've been thinking about this for a while now. i have ghsv-1, I'm concerned about dating and breaking the news to someone and being rejected. but what if they tell me they have ghsv-2? not gonna lie, i don't want another strain. would i risk it? i do not know...is this hypocritical of me? i say no. and yes. haha I'm conflicted! just something to think about.

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I think your question is fair and I have wondered the same thing. But if I really think about it, and imagine to myself if the person I am with now who I care very much for had another strain of ghsv than mine, I conclude that absolutely I would date him. It's always about what the person means to you. That's what it always seems to boil down to.

If you or I get rejected by people we hope to pursue., it's because what the virus means to them outweighs what we mean to them. And that is okay, there is no long term potential in a situation like that, it simply means we're not meant to be. The absence of H wouldn't change that fact. And on the flip side, if we are accepted, it is because we mean far more to those people than the virus does. It means we have potential. At the end of the day, h positive or not, it's always about the quality of the relationship that is the deciding factor.

So yeah, I would happily date someone with another strain if he is special to me. And I think we would have something unique and the benefit of being able to understand each other on a higher level because of it.

My man has oral hsv1 but no genital. I caught myself almost saying he is non h, lol. Goes to show how stigmas stick even within our own world. Herpes is herpes. Regardless what strain and regardless its location on the body.

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It is highly unlikely that you would get hsv1 and hsv2 in the same place because your body has built up immunities to one already (if it has been 3+ months since you acquired it), and the other is so similar it also offers protection against that. But really, it is up to you and your comfort level.

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I've thought about this too as someone with ghsv-1. Anyone here have ghsv-1 and dating someone with ghsv-2? There was a really cute guy in my H support group that I thought about dating, but was a little worried about acquiring hsv-2 on top of hsv-1. I often feel like more of a leper with ghsv-1 since there are so few of us. I haven't been able to find any attractive guys with ghsv-1 in the last 4 years.

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