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I’ve recently began dating someone I really care about and we have had lots of unprotected sex, and I never disclosed to him that I carry hsv1. Last week I had to take a day after pill, and the hormones in the pill stimulated the virus and gave me a minor outbreak. Now I want to disclose to my new partner that I have hsv1, but I feel terrible to disclose after having unprotected sex. Is it awful to lie and tell him that I just now found out? I'm very new to having hsv and have never disclosed before.

I know that it was extremely selfish that I didn't disclose my condition before we were sexually active, but I’d like to make it right now. I’m 21 years old and haven’t had hsv1 for even year and most of the time I don’t think about it because I so rarely have symptoms, or i guess I just haven’t accepted it as my reality.

Any disclosure advice is much much appreciated. I know that my choice of non-discloser was cruel and I'd like to find the courage and tools to be more honest and accepting of this condition.

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slowfall, relationships are built on trust and honesty. Just tell the truth about why you didn't disclose. Be prepared; he may be more upset that you didn't tell him than the actual virus itself.

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Thanks for your advice SheIsBlue, so simple but it really knocked some sense into me. The disclosure went extremely well. I told him 100% truth!

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Well you need to be more responsible ..take condoms with you and offer them before you decided to not tell people.. From a guys point view I would pist off if I got a std..very selfish of u..to remember to take pills then not give a shit

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