Freaked out

[AloneForever]

So I was recently diagnosed with HSV2 when I had an outbreak, which that partner seemingly ended things with me over a week ago. I've depressed for an entire week over him and yes it still hurts. But something random happened; I always had a HUGE I mean HUGE crush on this other guy for over 10 years from a distance and he all a sudden reached out to a mutual friend and wanted to talk to me. We hung out and he's such a nice guy, way better than the last jerk (my giver) now I have no idea what to do bc I dont want to start enjoying seeing someone and then I have to disclose this information and he runs away. How long do I wait and what do I do?? Please help I'm scared and can't even enjoy dating anymore for fear I'm a big herpe

[SheIsBlue]

You are NOT a big herpe. You are the same beautiful person you always have been, herpes can never change that. Just keep dating; take things slow and feel him out first. If you can tell he wants more from the relationship than just sex, he won't mind waiting to be intimate and you disclose when you think the time is right. If you do disclose, just state the facts in a calm manner and be prepared to answer any questions he may have. Keep us posted and let us know how it goes.

[AloneForever]

Thank you! [uSER=45754]@SheIsBlue[/uSER] I still miss my ex terribly and sad over him and he has yet to even call me w the test results and its been nearly a week and a half. I still feel sad for fear maybe he moved on and I have met a great man I've liked for many years to hopefully move on to, if all goes well. Is it normal to still have feelings and worry about what my ex is doing? I don't think I'll ever totally get over him. But I have to. He's obviously a man with many issues and I've come to unfortunately realize that. I think he needs to love himself first before he loves anyone else.

[SheIsBlue]

It is normal to still have feelings and worry about our exes. After all, we loved and cared for them and that doesn't go away over night. I can say that relationships are not always easy and I guess we just keep trying until we find one that works. Just b/c you love someone doesn't mean that you are meant to be together.

[AloneForever]

Thanks [uSER=45754]@SheIsBlue[/uSER] he told me his results were negative and basically seems to be still blowing me off. My friends think either he is lying or never even got tested or tested a false positive due to never having an outbreak. It's like saying in a nice way we're never having sex again. It hurts. Me and the new guy ended up talking and I ended up telling him my secret because I rather him walk away now if he needs to than later causing me more heartbreak and grief. I felt like if I didn't tell him I wasn't going to be able to date like my usual self and be I'd be in constant worry. He completely is ok with my H status and hes super nice, supportive and caring unlike my most recent partner and potential giver. Hopefully he will help me to heal over my ex by moving on in a better direction.

[SheIsBlue]

I am happy for you jlt; I hope this new relationship turns out the way you want it to.